Orange Tour Notes 2014

Orange Tour Notes 2014 – summaries from various sessions.

Orange is one of the best resources I recommend to churches. Orange curriculum, books and conferences help leaders in executive, children and youth ministries. This April, 5000 people (including me) will descend on Atlanta for the Orange Conference 2015. Registration begins this week.

Orange also does regional one-day conferences. Those events present much of what is taught in the main conference in Atlanta. To get a feel for what Orange is all about, here are notes (courtesy Cheryl Kneeland) from this year’s Orange Tour Seattle.

Orange TourOPENING SESSION: ORANGE TOUR – SAY ‘YES’ TO THE NEXT GENERATION

Speaker: Jon Acuff @JonAcuff

YES feels like a small word, but there is no such thing as a small YES to our big God. YES is a comma, it starts adventures. There is no period after YES

Things are always changing in ministry, you have to say YES to change, YES to bravery…

Not the movie version of bravery; the real stuff. Bravery feels like wanting to cry, wanting to throw up, not sleeping. Revival of fear is not failure. You have to be brave in the hard moments.

God, what you’ve given me is what I need to say YES to. God is not surprised or disappointed by the size of your ministry.

Sometimes it’s hard to find funny things to write about, and other times a woman sitting next to me brings a tambourine to church. At some point during the morning she thought, “This church is missing tambourine and I’m the person to bring it.: 🙂

You said YES to community. We care about kids, were not alone in that. You came to this space and said YES to community.

You said YES to the future. You believe that this child matters; you pour into them even if you don’t know if it’s sticking. People like YOU, love a child before they love themselves. You believe in them before they believe in themselves.

You said YES to being present, YES to being with kids, YES to all the things that you do, but ultimately YES to the next generation. THANK YOU for saying YES to Students, YES to children, YES to the next generation.

OPENING SESSION CONTINUED

Speaker: Reggie Joiner @ReggieJoiner

When you say YES to the next generation, you say YES to drama.

You can KNOW God
You can become a Christian in a MOMENT
The BIBLE is all true
TRUST leads to stronger faith
You should ENJOY going to church
Your BELIEFS matter
God has an IDEAL
GOD is good

It’s possible that how we handle those truths, it will affect the next generation. We have to think about how we hand off those truths to them.

It wasn’t because what we told kids wasn’t true, because it is… or that we didn’t teach them the gospel, because we did. What we do can give kids a concept of God that is bigger or smaller. If we’re not careful we can cause a child to have a shallow faith.

Sometimes in our zeal to fight for what is true, we don’t fight for the tensions that actually connect those truths to what is real.

When we take the tension out, we remove the energy, the influence, the power we’re supposed to have as leaders. Does mercy water down justice or vice-verse? No, it highlights it. The lack of tension diminishes the truth. Somehow along the way truth can loose it’s potency.

Sometimes a truth can lose clarity when it’s divorced from the reality of the other truths that amplify it.

Tension doesn’t make a truth less true, it makes it more real.

If you don’t say yes to the tension, kids will start thinking God is a lot smaller than he really is.

YES you can KNOW God AND YES God is a MYSTERY. Decide that God is bigger than your perspective.

YES you can become a Christian in a MOMENT… and YES it will take FOREVER to figure out what that means. At the end of the day, this is hard, it’s not a quick fix. God is bigger than your experience.

YES the BIBLE is all true… and YES everything true about LIFE is not in the Bible.

YES TRUST leads to stronger faith… and YES DOUBT can lead to stronger faith. If you don’t let your kids process their own doubt, they’ll never own their own faith. At the end of the day don’t worry if you’re kids express doubt, be worried if they don’t.

YES you should enjoy going to CHURCH… and YES you can enjoy living in the WORLD. I think God made the quarterback and God made the country singer. Don’t make things of the world the enemy. God is so much bigger than just your church.

YES your BELIEFS matter… and YES PEOPLE matter more. Take your cues from Jesus.

YES God has an IDEAL… and YES God uses BROKEN people. It’s not about us, it’s about God and what God can do through us.

YES GOD is good… and YES YOU should do good. At the end of the day, you are the best way that kids will learn how to do good. God is in YOU doing what you can’t do without Him. We don’t have an excuse not to do good in the world around us.

If you don’t say YES to the tension, kids could grow up to become “that” Christian.

Don’t be irresponsible.
Don’t get stuck.
Don’t be a jerk.
Don’t be weird.
Don’t be threatened.
Don’t be an idiot.
Don’t be shallow.
Don’t be arrogant.

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Orange Tour - Seattle Northshore Christian ChurchORANGE TOUR: SESSION TWO – SAY ‘YES’ TO CHANGE

Speaker: Carey Nieuwhof @cnieuwhof

Say YES to changing how you think about change. Anytime you hear the word change, you have an emotional reaction. As a leader, you think change is awesome, but to everyone else it’s awful.

We want to do everything we can to impact the next generation. Sometimes you have to sacrifice what is for the sake of what could be.

The greatest enemy to your future success is your current success.

Are you defeating what could end up being your transformation?

If you are really going to say YES to the next generation, you have to change your approach to change.

SESSION TWO CONTINUED

Speaker: Reggie Joiner @ReggieJoiner

When you say YES to the next generation, you say YES to messy.

As ministry leaders, you’re saving lives simply because you are doing life with them.

Say YES to the tension that exists between what is true and what is real if you want to have influence in the next generation.

We have to be intentional if we want to keep the momentum. You need to fight to get the tension that you need in your ministry.

Say YES to the tension that exists between what is core and what is dynamic if you want momentum in your ministry. It’s all connected to the great commission Jesus gave us. You will not be successful as a church simply because you have a mission. You will be successful because you have a strategy. You are driven by a mission but you succeed because of a strategy.

You are called to Pastor but you are required to lead. You should invest in insiders but you should prioritize for outsiders. You have to intentional about seeking out those on the outside.

What happens at church matters but what happens at home matters more. Effective ministries attract a crowd but effective ministries lead to community. Are you so wired to attract a crowd that you don’t know how to do community? Do you understand the power of a circle and the power of community?

You will never be able to out-produce what the culture produces. You can’t compete with that. But they can’t out-community you. They can’t create a safe place for a kid to show up and have a dialogue with someone who knows their name and knows them.

Teachers expand how you think but Coaches empower what you do. As long as you only teach in your church, your ministry will be limited to you. But when you coach and
empower leaders to take on a role in ministry, something fundamentally changes.
It’s just as important for you to lean into adults as it is for you to teach kids on a platform. You need to influence those who influence kids and teenagers (adults & parents).

The scope of your influence is determined by the success of your leaders. If you can help the small group leader and the parent, then you win. You all win. If you want every small group leader (SGL) and parent to win every week, then you have to coach them every week.

Think about how you can become a coach in the lives of the parents and SGL. Parents and SGL’s don’t need more content they need better cues.

Somewhere along the way, you need to think about there are not a lot of good things that happen monthly, they happen weekly. You can’t build relationships monthly. You can’t date monthly, it doesn’t work. You can’t disciple someone monthly.

3 Questions Coaches should answer every week to empower SGLs and parents:
What do they need to know?
Why do they need to know it?
When do they need to know it?

Less is more, it’s a matter of timing and relevance. It matters when it matters, it doesn’t matter if it’s true.

What if you take 2 hours of your week and you invest in parents and SGLs every week. Your mission is not to influence the next generation, it’s to influence those that influence the next generation. We have opportunity today because of social media to connect with parents and kids in ways we’ve never connected before. You have the ability with a couple hours a week to make some incredible investments in parents and small group leaders. You have to shift from being a teacher to being a coach.

If you want your ministry to grow you should surround yourself with voices that value what is dynamic as much as they value what is core. Surround yourself by people who are passionate enough to keep you on mission, but also willing to fight for tension.

When it comes to coaching, don’t just coach adult SGL and parents to do ministry, coach your teenagers to do ministry. Make sure there is a space and a place for teens. When they serve, they experience something they can’t experience any other way. You can tell a teen that they’re significant, but until you give them something significant to do, they won’t fully get it.

Check out the Lead Small app (free) to help you coach parents and small group leaders. (Note: this looks very promising. A great tool for small group leaders.)

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Orange Tour - Reggie JoinerORANGE TOUR – SESSION THREE

Speaker: Reggie Joiner @ReggieJoiner

No one leaves the church because someone said the Bible isn’t true. It’s about the people and the way they are treated or not treated.

Blog to read: Jessica Misener. She started questioning and hit a wall in church, so she walked away from Christianity as a whole. There is something there we can discover about how we need to talk to people.

Don’t say what you believe in such a way that it forces those who can’t agree with you to feel like they have to reject who Jesus said He was. We have literally put our faith and trust in a very real man, Jesus who lived on this earth and died for us.

BIBLE: Your primary calling is not to teach kids the Bible, but to lead them into a growing relationship with Jesus. God showed up. It gave the people a context for who God was.

Shift from Christianity is just a set of rules, doctrine, but is a relationship with God and others.

Say YES to tension that exists between content and context if you want to be relevant in your message.

Truth helps someone believe AND application helps someone win.
All scripture is equally inspired, but it is not equally important.
We have a job to figure out what are the most important pieces to share.
All scripture is not equally applicable for every stage of life. What are the pieces that a preschooler needs to hear? etc.
Look at what Jesus did… he stepped onto the planet so they could see, touch, hear who He is.
There is nothing about the Bible that is irrelevant, but we are the stewards to determine how and when to share it.

Understanding theology helps you teach what is true AND understanding reality helps you translate what is true. Don’t let your theology become more important than the people you are trying to get to know and build relationship with. People matter! You need to know your audience.

Orange Blog Rob CizekSESSION THREE CONTINUED

Speakers: Reggie Joiner @ReggieJoiner and Kristen Ivy @Kristen_Ivy

The reality is that so many of us work with kids and teens that have a changing reality and it’s different than yours.

Preschoolers are like artists: They blend reality and imagination. Most preschoolers have probably learned more since breakfast than you & I have learned in the last month. They are so smart.

Children are like scientists: They want to learn how things work, but they are concrete thinkers. They are very literal. Where does Jesus sleep in my heart? When they ask why… what they really mean is how? They want to master one idea at a time.

Teenagers are like philosophers: They want to put the pieces together, see how the stories fit together. They discover that things don’t fit together really easily… they come to us with challenging questions.

Paul when he went to the gentile world, knew how to leverage what they knew in terms of a world view.

A well-crafted statement can make truth memorable AND a well-reasoned question can make truth real.

Questions create space. It can be a little scary and intimidating at times, but it’s good.
It lets someone process their faith and personalize it.

Fear that I need to be in control and not let God be in control. God will have influence in their life long after we’re out of their life. Questions allow us to make our faith our own.

Questions: Make it their answer, make faith a journey, and make God bigger than just your understanding

Principles build Understanding AND Stories build hope.

PRINCIPLES:                                             STORIES:
Content                                                        Context
Idea                                                              History
God’s Thoughts                                          God’s Character
How to Live Life                                           How to Love Life
Reason                                                         Empathy
Discern                                                         Imagine
Wisdom                                                        Faith

Better presentations can amplify what matters AND deeper relationships can solidify what matters.

Too many times we neatly tie the bow and wrap up the presentation and we don’t leave a little tension for conversation in small group. Tension can create a SGL win.

What you say matters more when people know they really matter to you.

Fight harder for the church you’re in to give teens an opportunity to serve. Recruit leaders that will work with teens for an extended period of time. Get leaders that will be present in their life for a season in time beyond high school. Kids don’t run away from relationships.

Do we know what happens to kids after they leave our church? (Go to school) Are we building relationships that continue in life-long community?

When you decide your going to have history with them, it gives you a right to have future with them.

I will do for few what I can’t do for many. I will not let the ones I know become unknown to me.

Figure out how to stay engaged with them as the move into new stages of life. The 20-year-olds in your church probably need you as much now as they did when they were 10.

Engage with your small group at least through the first year of college.

What you do is the most important job on the planet. Thank you.

Orange Tour - Say Yes To The Next GenerationORANGE TOUR SESSION – PARTNERING WITH PARENTS

Speaker: Mike Clear

Be careful what you think about when you think about the parents of your few. That mom, dad, grandparent, foster parent, step parent has been with that child for a long time… they have seen more, loved more, hoped more, cried more with that child than you ever will. Regardless of their issues, every parent deep down inside wants to be a better parent.

The reality is they (the parents) have far more influence in the life of that child than you do. They drive that child around, they feed that child, they tuck them in at night. Who is in the better position to have far more influence on that child?

Let’s say YOU are an exceptional small group leader and you meet every possible week that you have and you make the most of it and you go beyond that and follow your few up through elementary school and you keep in touch with them through the years and maybe even get an invite to their wedding one day. But at your best, your influence in the life of your few is temporary whereas parents it’s lifelong.

For the sake of the few that we work with, we can try to figure out how exactly we can partner with their parents. How can we nurture an authentic daily faith in the life of your few?

Partner with Parents… Parents are looking for answers, they are constantly looking and processing how to be a better parent.

At Orange we believe every parent wants to be a better parent. Even when they complain and they discard all the paper work before they leave your ministry area. Parents just don’t realize or begin to fathom the impact that they have on the spiritual life of their child. Parents tend to avoid subjects that are hard or controversial, faith and spiritual stuff Every parent wants to do something more.

Whether or not they do something more in the life of their child spiritually, is really up to you the small group leader. Even if they go to a spiritual parenting class, they walk away highly motivated, but not highly equipped. As a small group leader you have the opportunity to paint a picture for them of what they can do and what it can look like for their child. Your belief influences your character and your character characterizes your belief.

6 Ways to Partner with Parents in Kids Ministry

There is always a variety of things you’ll need to try and some will stick and some won’t, it’s a constantly changing thing. They are not set in stone.

1. Make an Initial Connection:
If you are asking parents to partner with you and be a part of your strategy, you need to have some sort of initial connection with them. Using the drop-off and pick-up time typcially does not happen every Sunday, working perfectly.

Another option for you is to leverage social media: Text, Email, Facebook message…. tell them a little more about who you are as their child’s small group leader. We want to help them win as a parent. (Define your role as SGL and give them a little information about who you are).

Do a back to school night (don’t call it that)… drop-in night for about 45 minutes. They get to meet the leader, see some of the other parents and kids in the group, get the leader’s contact info. Get to see how the leader engages the child, the parent, the family. Invite parents to bring their kids into your elementary environment. Ask parents what they think you should know about their child…favorite color, hobbies, interests, allergies, etc. Ask them tell you a story about their child that you need to know. It shows them that you really care about their child.

2. Give Them Access to You:
Sometimes we fear giving away all our contact information, but by giving it to them it gives the parent a sense of peace. They may not go to you when they need someone, but they know they could. You could make a business card for your leaders

Small Group Leader noun
1. one consistent person in the life a child.
2. (Write what it is to your church…2 or 3 things total)
3. (Write what it is to your church…2 or 3 things total)
Back side of card has info about the Parent Cue, Parent Cue App, 252 Basics website
FB and Social Media: If you are an idiot on Facebook and social media, parents will see this and pay attention to this. If you want to partner with parents, don’t be an idiot.
Clean up your social footprint!

3. Leverage Technology to Cue Parents Regularly:
Get the Lead Small App. You can send a group text to all the parents of your group regularly, doesn’t have to be every week. Let them know what is going on in your ministry…what are you talking about in your small group. Give them a 40,000 foot view of what you’re talking about so they can continue the conversation at home.

What if we could set parents up and cue parents to start with a deeper question than just what did you learn about today? Don’t give them the whole lesson, just
give them a little. Example: So I heard you learned about Jonah today, what did you learn about him? Or what did you learn about being a good friend today

Let them know what is going on in your group. Let them know if their child had a little tension with another child today. Or let them know if you weren’t able to finish a conversation with the group. Let them know some information that will help them… give them some resources (not necessarily church written info or something you’ve written), but something that is relavent to pop culture like a parenting/stage blog.

4. Show Up Where Parents Show Up:
Show up at church. Give them a “hi”, a smile, an encouragement. If there is a special event, make a point to stop by and talk to them. Make events with small group
leaders and kids a priority. These events are done for a reason to connect parents and leaders in the church. When you put parents and small group leaders in the same room to connect, some powerful things happen.

Show up outside church. Never underestimate the power of physical mail (a postcard is an amazing thing). The great thing about a postcard is as a parent you can read before they do and they don’t even know you did. A birthday card, an occasional letter to the parent (just want you to know I’m praying for you, etc.) If you are going to show up physically, just give them a heads up first so it eliminates the awkward moment.

5. Help Parents Find an Answer:
Give them a resource. Recommend a book (Parenting Beyond your capacity, etc.), a devotional, a blog, etc.
Give them an ally. There will be a time when they ask a question you don’t know the answer to (don’t try to be an expert when you’re not in that area…just let
them know you don’t know, but I am here for you and I want to walk alongside you and help you find the answer/walk through this.
Give them a support group. Know what your church and the church down the street offer (CR, DivorceCare, etc.)

6. Say Something Positive:
We live in a culture, where there is a lot of negativity, a lot of things that are going bad or poorly…say something positive to them. Say something positive to parents about their kid. You don’t know the whole story of that kid, that parent, they may only hear negative things about their child. Give them something positive.

Also say something to kids about their parents. It’s a way to partner with parents when they don’t even know you’re doing it. Did you know that some kids struggle
with authority? There will be times when the kids unload everything to you about how bad things are at home or with their parent; look for ways to honor the parent and say something positive about them.

Say something positive to parents about them. Sometimes parents need to hear something positive about themselves, and sometimes it will be hard to do (to the
parent that seems disengaged, etc.) Getting to church is a win. Sometime the most positive thing you can say to the parent is thank you for being here today, for bringing your child, it was great to connect with them, to talk about xyz.

There will be times when it is complicated, messy, hard,…keep saying we’re here for you, we want to help you win, when the time comes that they need someone to talk to you, when a tragedy happens, they will come to you. Don’t give up on your few, please don’t give up on the parents.

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Thank you Cheryl Kneeland for sharing these excellent notes! Click here to follow her on Twitter.


 

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Top 10 Leadership Quotes From The Orange Tour 2014

Here are the top leadership quotes and ministry quotes from this year’s Orange Tour. Each year the good folks at Orange tour several cities teaching leadership and family ministry. Our church hosts the Seattle stop. Here are highlights:

TOP LEADERSHIP QUOTES

Orange Tour#10. Being afraid isn’t failure, staying afraid is. – @JonAcuff

#9. Just because something is true doesn’t mean that it will be embraced. – @ReggieJoiner

#8. Sometimes you need to risk and sacrifice what you are currently doing for the sake of what could be. – @CNieuwhof

#7. Stop thinking like a teacher… act like a coach. – @ReggieJoiner

#6. When you raise bar, high capacity people show up. – @CNieuwhof

#5. Surround yourself with voices that value what is dynamic as much as what is core. – @ReggieJoiner

#4. You’ve got to do character on the front end, not the back end. – @CNieuwhof

#3. As a leader, you are driven by mission, but you succeed because of strategy. – @ReggieJoiner

#2. The scope of your influence is determined by the success of your leaders. – @ReggieJoiner

#1. People admire your strengths, but they resonate with your weaknesses. – @CNieuwhof

TOP 12 MINISTRY QUOTES

Orange Tour - Reggie Joiner#12. People aren’t looking for friendliness, they are looking for friends. – @ReggieJoiner

#11. Trust leads to stronger faith, but doubt can also lead to stronger faith. – @ReggieJoiner

#10. Jesus never started with theology. He started with ministry. Where you start with someone is important. – @CNieuwhof

#9. God is not surprised or disappointed by the size of your ministry. – @JonAcuff

#8. If you never let your kids process their own doubts, they’ll never own their own faith. – @ReggieJoiner

#7. Don’t make the things in the world the enemy. – @ReggieJoiner

#6. Maturity takes time… we have to be willing to give people time. @CNieuwhof

#5. The greatest apologetic is a transformed life, not a full mind. – @ReggieJoiner

#4. One day when parents and kids think about your church, YOU will be what they remember. – @CNieuwhof

#3. The production at your churches doesn’t change lives. Relationships do. – @CNieuwhof

#2. You should invest in insiders. You should prioritize for outsiders. – @ReggieJoiner

#1. In the future, dialog will trump monolog.- @CNieuwhof

BONUS QUOTES

Orange Tour - Seattle Northshore Christian ChurchThe church should be the safest place to ask questions. – @ReggieJoiner

As leaders, our mission is to influence those who influence the next generation. – @ReggieJoiner

If you aim at nothing you’ll hit it every time. What are you aiming at? – @JimWideman

When you start with a self-depreciating story as a leader, it works… because they all can relate to you. – @CNieuwhof

Kids may be leaving the church because there it is not a safe place to ask their tough questions. – @CNieuwhof

Tension doesn’t make a truth less true, it makes it more real. – @ReggieJoiner

Sometimes in our zeal to fight for what is true, we don’t fight for the tensions that actually connect those truths to what is real. – @ReggieJoiner

Sometimes a truth can lose clarity when it’s divorced from the reality of the other truths that amplify it. – @ReggieJoiner

When there’s tension, there’s opportunity. Tension creates a platform for conversation. – @ReggieJoiner

“You can’t tell kids to be the church one day if you haven’t given them the opportunity to be the church now.” – @ReggieJoiner

Kids will not believe they are signficant until you give them something significant to do. – @ReggieJoiner

You should enjoy going to church. We should create church as a place people want to be. – @ReggieJoiner

You may become a Christian in a moment, but it takes forever to figure out what that means. – @ReggieJoiner

Working with children is like planting an orchard. You might not see results until years later. – @ReggieJoiner

What God has given me is what I need to say yes to. – @JonAcuff

You will never be able to out-produce what’s available in culture. Culture can’t out-“community” your church. – @ReggieJoiner

Beliefs matter. Start wrestling with doctrine & principles & ask hard questions-it’s important! – @ReggieJoiner

What do you need to do differently today… to reach the people you want to reach tomorrow? – @CNieuwhof

Orange Blog Rob CizekCONFERENCE NOTES

Tweet From Elle Campbell: For more notes from @ellllllllllle and @kennnnnnnnny on creating a safe space for students, visit http://ellecampbell.org/orangetour

Tweet from Jim Wideman: #Orangetour Seattle here are my notes and worker app enjoy http://ow.ly/BIe80

The Orange Tour stops in cities around the country each fall. I find it a great resource for our children’s ministry, student ministry, family ministry and senior leadership teams. Click here for more information.

 


 

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Main Session Notes From The Orange Conference #OC14

Here is a great resource – Orange Conference notes! Each year 6,000 leaders gather in Atlanta for the national Orange Conference for church leaders. Cheryl Kneeland is a member of our team. She took excellent notes from the main sessions and several of the breakouts. She has graciously shared them with us for this guest post. Be sure to follow Cheryl on Twitter here.

MAIN SESSION #1

Virginia Ward – Changing, A Series Of Systematic Movements

We need to learn some things about change and see and understand each other. “I wanna be a youth leader who helps young people connect faith and life together.”

We are going to say YES to change!

 

Orange ConferenceBrooklyn Lindsey – Say YES to being uncomfortable.

Chaos is our love language (in middle school ministry).

Luke 11:46

Carry each others’ burdens. (Galatians) We can’t fix it all, we can’t move this right now, but we know that God can help and we can say YES to the uncomfortable right now that opens the door, shows them that we, the church cares.

Believe in a church that will sit with us in our doubt and tell us that we are here and love you.

> I’m not going to leave your side. I can tenaciously pursue unbelievers and can sit with them and carry their burdens with them.

> The yoke will never be too heavy for us because the burden is shared.

Say YES to the redeemable, uncomfortable person in front of you.

 

Reggie Joiner – Say YES to a God that is bigger than you think

When you go through life changes you lean into the people that you do ministry with, work with, do life with. I hope you will be surrounded with people that you can lean into; that will share with you, encourage you, be with you, whatever it is that you are going through right now beyond learning the skills, I hope you will find relationship with the people around you.

> KNOW- You can know God. Without a shadow of doubt.

> MOMENT- You can become a Christian in a moment. All it takes is a moment, to become a Christian, a new believer.

>BIBLE- The Bible is all true. It is a unique thing that God has given us so we can understand what it is he’s given us.

> TRUST- Trust leads to relationship.

> CHURCH- You should enjoy going to church.

> BELIEVE- Your beliefs matter. Understanding God’s principles.

> GOD- God is good. God is a god that genuinely cares.

Just because something is true doesn’t mean someone will hold on to it.

People walk away from church…It wasn’t because what we told them wasn’t true, it wasn’t because we didn’t teach them the gospel because we did,

65% of people that walk away, say they are not religious.

If we’re not careful, we can dismantle their faith or leave them with an impression that God is small.

“Sometimes in our zeal to fight for what is true we don’t fight for the tensions that actually connect those truths to what is real.”

The mercy of God doesn’t water down the truth, it amplifies it.

Tension doesn’t make truth less true, it makes it more real.

Somewhere along the way, we need to understand that we can somehow hold truths in our hands and honor them that will help us articulate and help others understand how powerful God is.

If you want to stretch the faith of a kid, capture their imagination, then look at truth in a different way. I want them to understand that YES you can know God but YES God is a mystery and somewhere along the way we have to hold both of those truths in our hand and yes you can know God and he can still be mystery and you don’t have to know everything about God.

YES you can understand what it means to have a relationship with God in a moment, but it will take you forever to know what that means.

Sometimes we hang kids on a foundation in faith that teaches them that if you have this faith, everything will be better. They will learn that somewhere in this process, being a Christian is harder and messier than we thought it would be.

Yes the Bible is all true and YES at the same time, everything true about life is not in the Bible.

One day they are going to face some problems that aren’t directly addressed in the Bible. The Bible is the final authority when it comes to many issues, there is other information that we need. The Bible is the way we can understand the story and the character of God.

Romans 1:20

We can learn from each other and we should be good stewards to learn.

> Why do you interview non-Christian leaders to learn how to lead? Because God made them.

> Why do you go to educators? God made them.

We don’t have an excuse not to learn everything we can possibly learn to be the best leaders we can possibly be. We can’t be afraid of learning everything we can learn…

Kids need to know that God is bigger than your Bible.

YES, trust leads to stronger faith and doubt leads to stronger faith.

> This is a huge issue; it’s important because the kids are going to grow up and start asking questions in middle school and beyond and the way you answer their questions will make a big difference.

> If you don’t allow kids in middle school to process their own doubt, they won’t own their own faith.

They should enjoy church and they should enjoy the physical world around us, what God has created.

> It’s okay to enjoy other things, other than church.

> Don’t raise your kids and tell them they won’t enjoy candy.

> Don’t get worried because you might like people that are not Christians, even better than some Christians, don’t worry if you like listening to Justin Timberlake.

> Don’t make kids choose between the world and church, for the same reason you watch a non-Christian run a football down a field.

YES to beliefs that matter and YES people matter more.

You know what you believe, but people matter more. The lost son is a good example.

If your beliefs cause you to treat people the wrong way, something is wrong with your beliefs.

YES God has an ideal, but YES God uses broken people.

> Some of your kids are going to try to live up to an ideal and they’re going to get broken along the way. But let’s go back through the scripture and look at how many broken people God used.

> When your kids feel they cannot measure up, they may give up. Give them the idea and the concept of Grace in the middle of their world.

YES God is good and YES you should do good.

> You should do good because he’s created you to do good.

> At the end of the day you and I do not have an excuse not to do good.

> If we’re not leading them into the trenches to do good then we’re not leading them to the truth.

If you don’t say yes to the tension kids could grow up to become “that” Christian.

God is good but you need to be responsible to do good in the world.

> Don’t get stuck when things don’t work out the way you want them to.

> Don’t be a jerk.

> Don’t be weird.

> Don’t be so threatened by questions & doubt that you don’t believe God is bigger than your questions.

> Trust that God is doing something bigger than you, bigger than your perspective.

The world is watching, your kids are listening and you need to make sure your giving them that AND this.

Take a moment and pause and worship a God that is bigger than us.

 

MAIN SESSION #2

Heather Zempel- Pastor of Discipleship at National Community Church
SAY YES to finding everyone a place where they know they belong

Programs don’t disciple people, people disciple people.

Are our programs just keeping people busy or are they leading to relationships? What if we made sure our structures discipled people? Need to create places for people to encourage relational discipleship.

It’s going to take hard work to disciple people.

Disciples are made…When they know that they matter to somebody, when they know that they have a place to belong.

Romans 16 list…the people that invested in you, walked beside you along the way. Who’s list is your name going to show up on? We have the ability to control who’s list we’re on.

We need to name their potential. Drawing out of them the person that Jesus created them to be. Our words matter so make them big. Call them up to a higher level. You have to be a little crazy to be a disciple maker…You have to see things in people that no one else sees.

Be an example to all of the believers (Paul said to Timothy).

We also need to say YES to braving their mess. SAY YES to the inevitable mess that they will either create or find themselves in. Mess transforms peoples’ lives. We say YES to mess beginning with diapers and drool and it doesn’t stay that clean. You’re dealing with the bad choices that they make. If we want to say YES to the next generation, we have to say YES to the mess. We’ve got to speak life into the messy places. We need to remind kids that their mess is not final fate, it may be the incubator for miracles in their life.

We say YES to inconvenience, yes to hard conversations and shifting our priorities.Tell them a story that is larger than their own. We need to find ways to make kids experience grace that is unmistakable. It’s one thing to give kids a list of statements and say believe it or give them a list of rules and say follow it…We’re not going to win the next generation by making statements at them.

It’s not rules to live by but a calling to live for.

Who are we leaving in our wake? Who’s going to be on these kids Romans 16 list? We can make sure that they experience grace in the fullness of truth and the fullness of truth in the experience of grace. We’ve got to tell the story over and over again.

We cannot let Jesus’ last command become our least concern.

Invite them into a story that’s bigger than our own.

 

Mark Batterson, Lead Pastor at National Community Church
SAY YES to re-imagining what you do…

If you want to repeat history, do it the way it’s always been done. If you want to make history, do it a new way. Re-imagine the way you do things…

Acts 10 “He prayed to God regularly”

If you pray to God regularly, irregular things will happen regularly.

Orange, go home. Lock yourself in your room and draw a circle, get inside the circle and pray that God will bring a revival in that circle.

You can have Holy confidence because you know that God goes before you and you know that He can change anything and everything.

One day…you are one prayer away from a totally different life. Prayer is the difference between letting things happen and making things happen.

We underestimate what God can do in one day. God can accomplish more in one day than we can accomplish in a lifetime.

God’s revealing to us, giving us a vision from Him. Ask…What is your agenda (God) for me?

Often times I want God to reveal the second step, before I take the first step..don’t wait until you have the whole plan. You wouldn’t be in the place where God wants you to be.

Don’t let your budget determine your vision, let your vision determine your budget.

God is calling Peter to step out of the universe that he knows. It’s a huge step of faith to go where you’ve never been or do what you’ve never done. Sometimes re-imaging is as simple as changing the way you do something small, like switching translations of your Bible. (Get a different perspective).

Change of place plus change of pace equals re-imagining.

When and where do you pray? You should be able to answer this. If you can’t answer when and where you pray, you need to rethink your prayer time.

Matthew 18:18

Prayer is a spiritual contract. For the will of God.

Where is it that you’ve experienced God’s miracles? Sometimes we have to go back to that place to re-imagine.

“Surely not Lord” Peter had obeyed laws his entire life, he could hardly re-imagine another scenario. How many surely not Lord moments do we have?

Sometimes God shows up, sometimes God shows off.

When you get into an argument with God, if you win that argument you loose. If you loose that argument, you win. Is there an argument you need to loose?

Sometimes you have to risk your reputation to see God’s kingdom advance. Faith is willingness to look foolish. (Noah building an ark, Sarah preparing for a baby, wise men bringing gold, frankincense and myrrh, peter walked on water, etc.)

Peter walked through the door…This is the biggest moment in the history of the church. The moment that Peter entered the threshold, whosoever…we wouldn’t be here if Peter had not risked his reputation and re-imagined what he could do.

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MAIN SESSION #3 – When you SAY YES, you say YES to drama!

Ben Crawshaw & Jon Acuff

You’re a student leader and you’re in the middle of this and it’s messy; just start listening to people. You’ll learn a lot about people and see them as a person and not a problem.

Andy Stanley and Reggie Joiner

We need to live in the tension of theology and ministry…

Distinguish between theology/ministry:

> Jesus never allowed theology to get in the way of ministry. Religion has it’s place, but religion is second place, it should never be first (people are first).

> As a team you need to wrestle with what does this look like. Jesus really did deliver us the great commandment. Ministry, putting others first, relationships.

> Love God, Love your neighbor: All the law and the prophets hang on this. We need to keep coming at it from the position of hanging on Love God and Love your neighbor.

> When in doubt, what does love require of me?

What would happen if the world around us saw us treat each other with grace?

If we can learn to SAY YES to the messiness, to walking alongside people when they are struggling; the church will thrive.

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SESSION #4

Kara Powell and Reggie Joiner

Say YES to not always having the answer.

70% of youth group kids who are graduating have doubts. When young people have the opportunity to express and explore their doubt and questions, they typically have a stronger faith.

It’s not doubt that is toxic, it’s unexpressed doubt that is toxic (or damaging).

When kids or teens ask tough questions, how do we respond?

> I don’t know, but…

Don’t just give the “Christian” answer of just trust God. Many people walk away at that point and don’t come back to church, to faith.

Jesus is bigger than our biggest questions. He can handle our questions and our kids’ questions.

 

Perry Noble – Say YES to not having it all together

There are many students that struggle with anxiety and pressure…for some they are sensitive to body image. (Many adults are too).

Many people have a season of life when they struggle with fear and anxiety (other struggles can be depression, suicidal thoughts, etc.):

> Don’t say “Do more, work harder.” They feel caught in the situation and they can’t get out.

We as leaders need to create an environment where it is okay to not be okay, but it is not okay to stay that way.

James 5:14 “Is anyone among you sick? If any one of you are sick, we need to call the elders and pray over them.”

> We often just think of the typical sicknesses like a cold, flu, allergies, cancer, Alzheimer’s, etc.

> Worry leads to anxiety, anxiety leads to depression, depression leads to suicidal thoughts.

> These four things (worry, anxiety, depression & suicidal thoughts) are just as real sicknesses and we need to help each other.

> A sickness is anything that is not God’s best for you.

> Physically sick, emotionally sick, mentally sick, etc.

> I didn’t know that it was okay to not be okay as a leader. We need to create and model that type of environment…DO NOT pretend that everything is always okay.

> The first step is admitting that you are sick, that there is something going on that you need help with.

Churches often aren’t passionate about relationships and creating a safe place to be sick, they are a place to try to look perfect.

We cannot be the church that tells someone that they are struggling or messed up so they can’t come back.

For many churches…It’s okay to not be okay, but we have to pretend that we’re perfect. What does that look like to God?

You go to hell because you don’t know Jesus, you don’t go to hell because you commit suicide.

Many leaders in the Bible struggled (Jonah, Noah, Moses, David, etc.)

Godly people get stressed and anxious, and overwhelmed. Those people are some of the most spiritual people on the planet, but they are dealing with some real issues, some big things.

“…elders pray with them and anoint them with oil…”

Is it a sin or is it wrong for a Christian to take anti-depressants? No, don’t say you just need to depend on Jesus. You wouldn’t show up to tell someone having a heart-attack and turning blue that they just need to read their Bible more and pray more.

There is a chemical imbalance in the brain and it is okay to use a medication to help balance your body.

Most of the Bible heroes could not have worked at our churches. (Noah, David, Peter, even Jesus!)

If we’ve created environments in our churches where Jesus couldn’t be employed that’s not okay.

“…prayer will make the sick person well…The Lord will raise them up…”

The healing process begins and you can step out of darkness by helping us to see our sin issues and work through them. He never wastes a tragedy or a problem. It is a refining process, but there is a key to the environment we must create for our churches, our students, our kids…

vs. 16 “…therefore confess your sins to each other and pray with each other…”

I want something powerful and effective to happen in my spiritual life. You have to tell someone what’s going on, then you can be healed. You may not have told someone because you’re scared. It’s not easy to open up and tell someone else. But when you do, it makes a big difference.

God doesn’t necessarily heal you in the moment that you tell someone, but He starts the process. You have to model that environment where you tell someone and it’s really okay to not be okay, but it’s just not okay to stay that way.

The healing process begins as we talk about it out loud. Jesus said in His Word that talking about it heals.

Have the courage to be transparent, so that we can be trustworthy as leaders.

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MAIN SESSION #5

Doug Fields: SAY YES to helping marriages win

Bait & Switch- Is a practice in which the advertiser advertises one thing and then switches the deal when you arrive for something of their choice. Don’t do a bait & switch.

How do I help kids? Know Jesus? Be healthier?

I can’t adequately care for kids if I don’t care for their family, more specifically I need to care for their parent’s marriage.

We have to extend our definition of family ministry to include the family’s marriage.

When a marriage is bad, everything is bad. If you’re mad, you’re mad at everything. If you don’t have a healthy marriage, you don’t have a vibrant red in your family, your home. And that makes it hard to have a healthy Orange color when partnering with the church.

When you say YES to the next generation, you say YES to helping marriages win.

Many of our church’s marriage strategies are like putting a band-aid on a hemorrhage. It’s not enough to do a once a year conference or give couples a book or do a short sermon series on it. We would never use this approach for students and children. You wouldn’t teach them one thing and expect them to remember it and hold onto it for a whole year.

What if the people in this room came up with a plan to help the marriages in your church, a marriage strategy? What would that look like to do this at your church? We need to have these conversations.

If you’re about kids, you’ve got to be about those kids’ parents’ marriages.

Maybe it’s time to cut some things out and focus on the families, the marriages. The families, our families would be healthier.

Those of us that care the most about kids, need to take the lead on caring the most about marriages.

Children of divorced parents are more than five times more likely to walk away from the church.

1. Focus on your own marriage. Whether you’re married or not, you & I can be an advocate for marriage. Your audience, the kids are watching you. Your marriage is more important than your ministry. You marriage may be more important to your church than your ministry.

2. Teach your kids about marriage. We need to talk about marriage, more than just the sex talk or a purity message. Hebrews 13:4 We are good at teaching the second part of this verse, but we don’t do a good job teaching that marriage should be honored by all.

3. Recruit a mentor couple to be around your ministry. Be around the kids, other leaders. Help us think how we could help other marriages in our church. There are people that have something to offer at your church and they are just waiting to be asked to help.

4. Help couples date. Marriages are healthier when the parents get to date. Have teens help with date nights at church. Challenge the teens to serve and understand that they are helping marriages. Offer childcare. Do a date night for couples with children with special needs. We just need to hand couple’s footballs in our world; give them date night ideas. Resource: marriedpeople.org

5. Up-sell. Just like at a fast food restaurant. Connect a marriage strategy to your family strategy. Book: Married People, How to Build Marriages that Last (authors: Ted Lowe and Doug Fields). We’re looking for some courageous earlier adopters, that can help us figure this out in the trenches, getting in on phase one. We are on the ground floor of connecting marriages and children.

When you say YES to the next generation, you say YES to helping marriages win!

You came here thinking that you’re part of children’s ministry or students ministry, I want you to leave knowing you’re in marriage ministry too.

Let’s make it happen to help make marriages a priority.

 

Jeff Henderson: Say YES to people who say no to church

What you do is incredibly significant! What you are doing in family ministry is life-changing.

You change the world by falling in love with Jesus and letting him lead your ministry.

There is something in common with all of us here, this community that’s the same with your community.

Never tell God never, he plays close attention.

For some of you…You’re wow, but you’re not how. (Not typically good at figuring out the how).

I want you to know that God loves you and you may not believe all of these things that we’re reading, but I believe that God loves you unconditionally. It’s good news.

You may have said no to Jesus, but Jesus has said YES to you.

In 11 years pastoring, here’s the group of people we need to talk about. We need to say YES to those who have said no to what you & I believe, say YES to those that said no to the church and say YES to those that said no to Jesus.

We’ve got to get our hearts around this as it relates to the church.

You will never experience what the church can do for you, until you experience what the church can do through you.

Acts 17:22-23

We say YES by talking less. We talk too much.

> Sit down with the staff and listen. As she began to listen, the staff began to think that she really cared about them. Listening builds trust.

> Many reasons that people say no to the church is that we’ve just talked and preached at them and not listened to them.

> Asked people who do not go to church; How interested would you be in hanging out with a church pastor or staff member? 84% of unchurched 18-34 year-olds said they are not interested.

> They are more likely to attend church if it feels like a community.

> What would it look like if you could listen to your community?

> Own a restaurant, know the staff, the waiters, and talk to them. (You don’t have to literally be the restaurant owner, just get to know the people there, be a regular).

> How can we go on a listening tour? Say YES by talking less and listening more.

Say YES in a common unifying language.

> We talk church lingo too often and it confuses people. We want them to understand what we have for them. What is our promise to our community? And what are we saying in a way that they can understand?

> The reason so many people have said no to the church, is because they don’t understand us.
What do we want to be known for?

How can we say YES to those that said no?

Is there a phrase or language that we can communicate consistently that they would understand?

We are trying to get this language out to the community. FOR is a great word.

#FORGWINETT

Look for events in the county that need help. We just want to let the community know that we are for them. More people know more of what the church is against than what they’re for…make sure they know what it’s for.

When people have said no to the church, we want them to know that Jesus has still said YES to them.

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MAIN SESSION #6

Derwin Gray, Pastor at Transformation Church: Say YES to letting God rewrite your story

Leaders see things in other people, that which they don’t see in themselves…That who they are today, is not who they will be tomorrow.

Say YES to the next generation, to finding YOUR Story in HIS Story.

God has a story and he’s writing you into the story.

Galatians 2:20

We must be learning His story so we can understand it.

Say YES to co-crucifixion with Christ.

Why are we not using teenagers, and involving teenagers? They are not the church of tomorrow, they are the church of today.

They don’t have volunteers (you’re heart doesn’t volunteer to beat), they have servant leaders and EVERYONE 6th grade and older is a servant leader, serving somewhere in the church.

How do we say YES to the next generation so that they can have their story rewritten?

Say YES to receiving God’s love in Jesus.

Do they know that you LOVE Jesus? When it’s all said and done, they don’t remember the games, they remember JESUS.

On Sunday morning do you spend more time in your Bible or in your closest choosing what to wear?

Do our students know they’re loved? We want a generation that as they disembark in this world, they are intoxicated with Jesus.

Say YES to receiving significance in Jesus.

We want our students to say YES and do phenomenal things but we want them to find their ultimate significance in Jesus.

Jesus is my significance. We want our next generation to be achievers for Jesus’ glory.

Say YES to receiving a new identity in Christ.

We all have a past, but our identity is defined by Jesus Christ. Your past is no longer holding you in bondage. We have a new identity and a new power. Loose the victim label and accept Jesus’ identity for you.

Dream, imagine what our glorious God can do and have a generation of students that can imagine what Jesus can do and rest their identity in him.

Jesus says, That’s why I choose you, because you can’t. Jesus can.

 

Jon Acuff: Say YES to future, Say YES to being afraid

Courage is fun to watch other people have. But it’s not always fun to try to have yourself.

Bravery feels like wanting to cry, throw up, not sleeping very well…

Transition moments like the end of an event; you get so full of hope, but then fear is waiting in the car, “I’m not enough”, “other churches are cooler,” etc.

When you say YES to being afraid…

God tells us you don’t have to have it all figured out. There is a pressure to have your whole life figured out and feel like everyone else does except you.

> The closer you get to God, the more you realize I don’t know but I do know who does.

> We need to be able to say I don’t know and that’s okay.

> God takes you in places you can’t plan, he surprises us in ways we can’t imagine.

> Anyone who is successful and tells you they knew where they were going is lying. Moses had to move first before he was spoken to.

> You were created for more than just errands.

God knew you were going to be afraid.

> The most common phrase in the Bible is “Do not be afraid.”

> There are so many references to fear.

> Matthew 6:26

> What a gift it is that God choose a bird. We all see birds. There are thousands of them.

> God gave us something that we can look to regularly.

Sometimes we pray for the wrong things.

> You don’t always win and sometimes we are going to loose. Sometimes we will fail.

> When you face fear and you come up with all the options, where is Jesus in that?

> Why is he not one of your options?

> You perform and perform and perform and one day you wake up and you dread Christmas, or you say you can breathe again once you get through Easter. Is that why it was created?

> God doesn’t need us to add our talents to complete Him, he invites us into his story to part of it because He loves you not because He needs you to complete Him. He’s already complete.

God will never be handcuffed by the failures of your ministry or the successes of your ministry.

Sometimes you meet people and feel like you’re the only one with fear. We all have fears!

He loves us too much to take away our fears. Sometimes we pray for God to take away our fears…but, Why would He close the one door you’re walking through right now?

Acts 4:29

They don’t say consider their threats and remove them or get rid of them. They pray to have more boldness.

We need to stop praying for less fear and pray for more boldness. Pray for better legs that run faster to the one that is bigger than our fears.

God has a plan for you, but we don’t know it; that’s the tension and we have to live with it.

Don’t see fear as failure, see it as a doorway to a God that wants to have a relationship with you.

— BONUS NOTES —

BREAKOUT SESSIONS

Pre-conference Session #1

Orange ConferenceStephen “Doc” Hunsley, M.D. Special Needs Ministry (SOAR) at Grace Church in Overland Park, Kansas

Topic- Training Volunteers to Include Children and Students with Autism

Don’t get down on the trials in life, because God is doing something!

Every individual is different, no one has the same exact needs.

Approx. 90% of children and families with special needs family members do not attend church. Most of them have either tried a church and didn’t feel welcome (fear of acceptance and the anxiety of volunteers) or got asked to leave a church.

75% of Jesus’ miracles in the Bible were performed on people with special needs.

We need to embrace special needs individuals in our churches, in our church family.

Most children with autism or other special needs, you won’t know right away.

The first impressions team and parking attendants need training to work with families with children with autism as well. They can help a family with a child that’s struggling to get out of the car or into the building and make the family feel loved and welcome.

Sensory Integration: Agitated Student- (Student refusing to sit down)

> Get down on the child’s level…DO NOT talk above them or down to them. It will elevate their stress.

> Stay calm and talk them through what is going on and exactly what is expected. Use First-Then language. Example: First we’re going to sit down, then we’re going to have snack.

> Verbal child- Have them repeat the First-Then statement back to you.

> Get some mouse pads (solid colors, just one or two colors total). You can have the child pick which color they want to sit on and you enable them to be a part of the plan and choose something for themselves. Works great with regular attending kids. (Builds routine)

Transitioning Behaviors: Overstimulated Student- (Recurring pattern with a regular child)

> Start with reminders (Sally 5 minutes until we’re going to go inside, Sally 3 minutes until we go inside, 1 more minute Sally)

> Try bringing them in several minutes before the class, walk them over to the drinking fountain and use the First-Then language. Helps them cool down.

Sensory Integration – Large Group Challenge (worship time)

> Try to figure out what the problem is. Too loud, new or strong smell, lights, too crowded, etc.

> Move them to another location in the room to see if it helps them. If it’s Miss Sally’s new perfume, moving to another spot in the room helps a lot.

> Sensory toys- create a small tub for each room.

> Deep massage or simple squeeze- helps them feel safe and they “melt”

> Have them stand by a window where they can look out and stand up, but still participate in the worship.

> Live Stream worship (either kids or adults from main service) in another room where you can control the sound and lights better.

Sensory Integration – Objects in Mouth

> Could be that the child just needs movement. Sometimes sitting in the chair is painful.

> Use a sensory box (full of little toys-squeeze toys, Rubik’s cube, gel wands, glitter wands)

> Get some larger items that can’t go in the mouth- large vibrators like the snake that goes around the neck tend to work well.

> If you do snacks in your room, have the child come over with you to get a small snack.

> Ask a simple question- Sally what goes in your mouth? It’s a simple reminder to them bc they often don’t even know they are doing it.

> Ask the parents what they do at home (many probably have chew toys) and ask them to bring one and label it in a zip-loc bag for them.

Behavior Integration – Meltdown (full kicking, screaming, hitting, biting- any ages)

> Create distance between the individual and the rest of the kids. It is often easier to remove an entire class (go on a bathroom break, outside, etc.) than removing the child).

> YOU may be the trigger, so be aware of that.

> If they are in danger of hurting themselves, get another adult to help you so you are NOT alone.

> Last resort, call the parents.

> Keep yourself at a safe distance, talk calm, slow, help bring their stress down.

> Reinforce with things like, hey Johnny your parents are coming soon.

> Turn the lights off, or dim them to get the stimuli down. Turn off the music and other distractions and stimulus.

> Get a weighted blanket. Ask someone to make one (filled with rice, beans, beads, etc). Typically weighs about 15 pounds.

> Lay the blanket on top of the child and let them calm down.

> Physical restraint is a last resort and needs to be a trained staff member and ONLY if the child is in physical danger of hurting themselves or others.

Behavior Intervention – Runner

> They can get through any lock, any gate, they’re fast.

> Go after them; however, don’t make it a game of chase. Stand still or walk toward them.

> Be careful not to turn it into a game.

> Figure out the trigger (are they escaping a task, want attention, bored and want to do something else).

> Need a code word for staff team and security at church. Call out “code green” and everyone covers all the doors to make sure they don’t leave the building.

>They also like to hide, so have your extra volunteers help look for them.

> They will hide in small dark places, especially when they are on the verge of sensory overload.

> During transitions, let them know ahead of time using First-Then statements.

> Hold their hand to walk to the next place.

> Remind them of the reinforcement system they have, so they know that they will get something positive when they are showing Christ-like behavior, or what they are suposed to be doing.

Behavior Intervention – Parent Conversation (At this point you’re tired, frustrated)
> Stay positive, talk about what their child did well that day.

> Don’t tell them they are a bad parent or a horrible parent.

> Special Needs parents are bombarded all the time, everywhere with the negative and all the things they are doing wrong (because people don’t understand that their child has special needs).

> Church needs to be a place of refuge, where the parents know their child with special needs is being loved on.

> Have the ministry director or pastor help you with the conversation

> Evaluate if the negative is something they really need to know about.

> They are constantly worn out, dealing with it everyday.

> Don’t do it in the middle of the hallway. Be respectful and private.

> Sandwich- Positive, Negative, Positive

> Do not place emotion in it (yours or assume the child’s), just state the facts of the negative.

> Pray through it and see if you really need to do it.

Language- Peer Interaction

> Kids will direct their questions and interactions to the adults in the room.

> Model to the child how to interact with the non-verbal child.

> Include the special needs child in the interaction, don’t just talk about them.

> Encourage and promote any interaction socially with their peers.

> Parents want to see their children included.

Language – Unengaged Student

> Be a model, show them the actions you want them to do.

> Encourage volunteers to get involved.

> Kids with autism, can be highly stimulated and on the verge of sensory overload, so even when they don’t appear to be involved (may just sit and watch quietly), that’s okay. That may be all they can do.

> Let them walk in the back of the room with a toy, it let’s them experience what you’re doing in their own way.

> Ask them questions about what you were teaching. They may repeat the whole story and beyond. Some kids will repeat several weeks or even months of stories to you.

> Have the same expectations, do not sell them short. Share the gospel with them and realize they can get it.

> Don’t give up on them.

> Observe the behavior. Sometimes it’s not sensory overload, it’s more of a choice action. Talk with them, why don’t you help with the motions today.

> Volunteers are allowed to touch the children and the child knows the word No.

> Help them stand up. Put your hand over their arms and help them do the motions. They frequently think it’s fun.

> If it doesn’t work well, take a step back and allow them to sit on the floor pr engage in worship in their own individual way.

50% of children with autism have seizures.

> First, stop and look at the time. The length of the seizure makes a HUGE difference. 5 minutes or more is an emergency!

> Ensure their safety, move them away from the wall, toys, etc.

> DO NOT put anything in their mouth including a bite block

> Call for help (another adult).

> If it’s a known seizure child, you may not need to call the parents, but you need that plan in place and agreed upon first.

> Always call immediately if it’s the first time they had a seizure or a new child

> Have two people there one on each side, to help them once they stop and are regaining balance

> You may need to call 911

Charlotte’s Web – Marijuana for children with seizures

> As a pediatrician absolutely not something I recommend.

> As a parent, if my child was having 100-1000 seizures a day, I would do it in a heartbeat to help with the quality of life.

> As a church, no where in the Bible is there something that says you are not allowed to do charlotet’s web. Some churches say no and have asked families to leave the church because they are doing it.

> No church should be making the stand to tell the parent how to parent. Take the high road. The family needs you to come alongside them, they need spiritual encouragement, love them.

It is helpful to interview your new special needs families and create a plan for their child to do what’s best for them and to be able to love the child and help the child.

For the parent in denial that their child is autistic; do not come into the conversation saying they have autism, just talk about how you’ve noticed that Jacob needs a little extra help in the class and we would love to get Jacob a buddy to help him have a better time in class, and keep up with the activities. You are just offering a little extra help, not accusing them of doing anything. You may ask if they have an IEP at school and ask about it.

Training for Physical Restraints (CPI). Check to see what training is offered locally and get your staff trained.

Buddy System- Majority of special needs students do not need a buddy. Try to keep them mainstreamed. Youngest buddy is 8 years old, but he’s one of the best ones. It’s more about training and language use then the age of the child. Encourage youth and adults to be apart of it. Tap into your middle school and high school students. Families may also want to serve together and this is a great opportunity.

Pre-conference Session #2 – How to Reach Families in Your Local Elementary School with Dan Scott (Orange) and Dan Kubish (New Spring Church in Wichita, KS)

There are lots of kids that will never walk in the doors of your church, and they need help, they need to see God’s love in action.

School in General:
> 50.1 million kids will attend school in US this year
> Average size is 20-25 kids & 1 teacher in a classroom
> 160,000 kids will miss school because of bullying
> 71% of kids report that bullying is a problem.
> 1 out of 5 kids will drop out before graduation

Americans are not happy with our schools.

Barna’s Schools in Crisis Survey
> 76% of Americans think greater family and parental involvement will improve lower-performing schools

> 70% high quality teachers will improve lower-performing schools

> 35% more involvement from faith communities will improve lower-performing schools

> Who is responsible? Primary resource for education 80% parents

We can help, but the church in general isn’t too sure. We can…

> Encourage teachers

> Help with fund raising

> Volunteer at local schools

> Help promote reform

Instead of helping, many in the church flee.

There is so much potential- our kids can be the light in their public schools, in the darkness.

There are 3 big influences in the life of a child:

> Church (40 hours a year)

> Home (3000 hours with family at home)

> School (1600 hours a year)

What would happen if we leverage the influence at the schools as well??

> That’s a lot of hours you can impact on top of your 40 in the life of a child over the year.

3 is greater than 1 plus 1 plus 1.

We need to work together, get on the same page with the schools.

75% of kids in your community will never benefit from what you do inside the church because they will never come to you. If you want to reach those kids, you have to go to them. Orange is about widening the circle, reaching out.

 

Dan Scott interviewed Dan Kubish (thebigideaexperience.com)
Core Central Values- Pathway to Public Schools

Where to start…4 simple steps

Adopt one school. Schools are looking for it. In Kansas schools are required to have a virtue based curriculum.

> Set up a time to meet with the school.

> They started with a 40 minute program to do for the school.

> They didn’t cross the line, didn’t say Jesus or get out their Bibles, but they still taught the virtue.

> They started getting referrals from other schools

> Need to meet with people on staff. Talk to the people in charge of curriculum, typically a counselor. Probably don’t want to go through the PTA. Directly to the people that make the decisions.

> Ask to do an assembly for the school

> It’s great to have a teacher invite you to the school, but not necessary.

Actually meet at the school, on their turf, in their time frame, with their rules

> Hang out and talk and see how you can get on the same page.

> Meet with them, Big Idea coming to your school (wear the same shirts to make yourselves identifiable).

> Janitor may not be too happy, so bring help to clean and set-up, tear down.

> Safety issue to have people on campus, so make sure you follow their policies. Go over the rules and make sure you tell them what your signal is to keep the crowd quiet. Have fun, but keep it organized. Be respectful, don’t come in like you know it all. Humility is key!

Be Positive – Point out good things about the school

Ask how you can help

> Leave your agenda behind

> Serve with humility

> Exceed expectations

Another idea is to do a carnival for them or something of that nature. We are here to assist the school.

In Kansas, May 1st is the Stop Bullying March, the kids all wear a shirt and participate in activities that day. They created a short 15 minute video for them to get the kids pumped up about participating and wearing their shirts.

New Spring church has a truck and tailor and they bring and set-up all their own equipment. They go to 71 different schools.

They also put up a billboard for Humility on the major highway through the city.

It will be the easiest money you raise as a church, people will step up to the plate. They told people what they’re doing and they donated the money to put up the digital billboards on the main freeway (I35). A radio station donated a short amount of time to them as well, where they just a do a 30 second blurb on what the big idea is (Humility, use the virtue)

There is a tab on the 252 website for the school XP and it can be a start for you.

Free to the schools, Dan K. buys most of their stuff from Core Essentials.

Most schools can’t afford assemblies but they are looking for them. Offer your program to schools as a free assembly.

You must have excellence, needs to be a program that both the kids and teachers love.

You can teach God’s truth to the kids and tell them Bible stories by changing names (for the Good Samaritan they used football team names).

They are able to build relationships with the school and he is able to go now when they call him to talk to a student when they’re going through something hard.

Encourage kids and administration.

They have a different website, name and mailing address away from the church. It keeps the schools open to partnering with them.

Most pastors will ask what will it do for the church. We would still do it even if no one started coming to the church because of it, but over 80% of the teachers and kids from those schools come to their church now. Teachers have figured out that if you love the kids so much that you come to us and build relationships and love on the kids than what amazing things are you doing at your church.

The teachers see the kids more than you do at church.

Tell the schools, we’d love to provide the core essential curriculum for you. It’s a great way in. Costs about $199 a month or so. It’ll be worth it for you to reach your community.

How do you go to 71 schools, 5 services on the weekend, and have 13 staff members? Do 4 shows at schools a day. DO NOT WRITE YOUR OWN CURRICULUM. Don’t waste your time. Work 40 hours a week.

Talk with your parents, talk with teachers in your church. Start small.

What are some ways to fund the program if your church does not have the funding?
You can talk to community leaders because it’s community-based.
Businesses (& business leaders) in the community like to help with things that help the community. There are people in your church that this is their passion…there are people already volunteering in schools and this may be part of their dream. They may volunteer to help you.

For Core Essential Values there is a backlog to go get at a later time if your school is doing a different value or virtue that month; however, there is stuff specific to the time of year or month like December.

You can do it with 3 people at the minimum.

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PRE-CONFERENCE SESSION #4

FX Interactive with Adam Duckworth in Fort Launderdale:
@adam_duckworth

Context for why we do what we do related to Family experience.
What is Orange? Two combined influences make a greater impact than just two influences. Church and Family…

Light in a broken world that should shine the light brighter so that everyone can see it.
Red and Yellow together make Orange.

FX is that coming to life, represented. Family and church should meet and learn about the same things together.

5 Principles to the orange strategy:

> Integrate Strategy: Align church leaders and parents to lead with the same end in mind.

> Redefine the Message: Craft core truths into engaging, relevant and memorable experiences.

> Reactivate the Family: Enlist parents to act as partners in the spiritual formation of their own children.

> Elevate Community: Connect everyone to a caring leader and a consistent group of peers

> Leverage Influence: Create consistent opportunities for students to experience personal ministry.

Populate the stage with middle school students and high school students: they engage in personal ministry beyond high school. It helps them stay in the church once they leave the community.

FX: A shared experience for families designed to engage parents as partners with a strategy to shape the character and faith of their children.

The life apps help shape kids, shape their faith, shape their future, shape their families. It’s a shared experience.

Why an FX? By creating an FX you help “reactivate the family” in your community.

> Communities are crumbling

> Families are different today, they are changing.

> Our doors are always open because we want to help your family take the next step toward Jesus.

Spiritual Leaders: Spiritual leadership has no clear definition.

There are people that are attempting to engage with us that may have no experience in a church, no experience with faith. They don’t know what that means.

It should be our goal in family experience to encourage people to take steps.

It should never be our goal to engage parents to do everything but to do something more.

Levels of Partnership:

> Aware: who understand they have a responsibility

> Involved: who are active and busy

> Invested: who are devoted in their participation

> Engaged: who are intentional about doing something

It’s very rare that someone is going to become engaged overnight, but we help them take little steps.

FX Priorities:

> Family Centered: Creates a consistent, shared experience for parents and kids

> Kid Focused: Targets the everyday issues in a kid’s everyday world

> Value Driven: Emphasizes specific life apps that allow kids to develop faith and character

> Creatively Wired: Uses innovative and creative tools to communicate timeless truths

> User Friendly: Creates a non-threatening environment for families to invite friends to

> Volunteer Fueled: Build on teams of volunteers

When you get like-minded people around the table implementing the same vision it will change your community. Volunteers are awesome.

About 13 elements in a typical FX

FX can be done with as few as 3 people, but it’s better (& easier) to have more people.

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THURSDAY BREAKOUT SESSION A

Brooklyn Lindsey, brooklynlindsey.com
Leading through Crisis, Tragedy & Trauma (Students)

Announcement: XP team has an emergency kit that you can use. Includes what to say and do programming wise after an emergency in your community.

You are not alone, it’s going to take a lot of people and a lot of love and you are not alone.

Small crisis: Play Finger Ninja- hands up, put your right pointer finger in the palm of the person next to you and on the count of 3 trap one side and escape the other side.

Quote: Ann Lamount says “Lighthouses don’t go all around an island looking for boats to save they just stand still and shine their light.”

Lighthouses are stable and strong, & they are drawing in nature, they draw ppl in.

Stay strong and be who you are in Him. That identity in Christ enables you to do what you need to do to help others.

We may not be the best at handling certain situations, but we will be the best at being ourselves and we will have what it takes.

Ldrs are often the first responders, usually starts with a conversation. You have this knowledge that you’re going to call on the phone or have a face to face conversation.

> Difficult, hard, don’t always have the answers. At the end of the day, our job is to respond.

> Your genuine and thoughtful response will tell the hurting that you care.

> Show up, respond, don’t be afraid of that.

SAY THIS NOT THAT:

As you begin to have the conversations:

> Focus on listening

> Focus on Feeling (Let them voice their emotions)

> Focus on Remembering (Tell me about a good memory, why do you love someone so much) – Journal, talk about your memories

Say This:

> I’m so sorry for your loss

> I hate that you’re going through this

> I know this is really hard

> I know that this is really difficult

> Tell me a story about this person

> We’re going to walk through this together

Book: Youth Leaders Guide to Crisis (good appendix of adjectives in the back of the book). Sometimes our simple words don’t express the depth or the breadth of their feelings. You can have a student circle some of the words that they’re feeling.

If you can’t go with them together, then find somebody that can. (Small group leaders are great)

DO NOT Say This:

> Avoid Cliches

> Avoid Answers (we don’t have all the answers)

> Avoid Timelines

Hurtful:

> Everything happens for a reason

> How are you?

> You’ll get over this

> God just needed another angel

> At least you have your Dad/Friends/etc.

> Don’t cry

It’s good to grieve and let people grieve even when it’s hard.

There are times that you go through crisis that you will have to deal with it in the future, because someone forgot it or blocked it. (Crisis can come out at any time).

Crisis lives on and it can be the incubator for miracles. (Heather said this in main session this morning).

Sometimes people look at the church and they just want to see or hear something that says come home. The world is just saying “Say Something” to me, let me know you care and love me. Be open and receptive.

People in your life need to be filling you up, speaking words of truth into you. You need to be full so you can say YES to being the lighthouse

Crisis foreshadows the future, they are imaging their faith in the future through you. God wants you to help carry other people’s burdens.

What is Crisis:

> A crisis is a time of intense difficulty, trouble, or danger

> A period of disequilibrium that overpowers a person’s homeostatic mechanisms (therapeutic definition)

> A crisis throws people off balance

> It can be difficult to predict

> It can be brought on by anything

> It can be something that effects someone in one stage of their life and not in another

Who determines a crisis? The person going through it.

When to respond when and how:

Acute (pointed, immediate): (Needs immediate attention from you or someone else, like going to the hospital). Suicide attempt, abuses, runaway, assault, sudden loss, etc.

Chronic (enduring, reoccurring, persistent): (Sometimes this will quickly escalate to Acute and it is not your fault) Cutting, compulsive behaviors, ADHD, depression, etc. Response can be slower.

Adjustment (stressful on relationships, annoying but they are usually just transitioning): Lying, sibling born, defiance, family remarriage, etc. Sometimes it helps to tell someone to breathe. Can be fun, but can also be awful. Tell them you’ll be with them through this.

Lighthouses don’t go running around an island trying to save people.

Daniel 12:3

Say YES to be the first responder and being helped by the first responders.

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HELPFUL LINKS:

Orange Conference 2014 Notes – From Nick Blevins

#OC14 Orange Conference Notes – From Jim Wideman

Orange Conference 2014 Notes – From Brian Dodd

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This information was presented at the national Orange Conference #OC14. Click here for more information on Orange.

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Key Takeaways from “Lynchpin” by Seth Godin

Linchpin by Seth Godin Like a fast food restaurant, some books give you pithy leadership advice . . . quick and satisfying hits without much effort on your part.

Lynchpin isn’t one of those books.

In it, Seth Godin pulls out the white tablecloths and fine china. He serves a seven course meal of ideas to savor slowly.

I spent weeks carefully reading and processing this book. This is a good thing for leaders to do from time to time. Our best opportunities to develop happen when we allow ourselves the space to reflect and slowly ingest what ideas we take in.

Linchpin by Seth GodinHere are some key takeaways from Seth Godin’s Linchpin:

> Prior to the Industrial Revolution, gifted artisans made things. The more unique and individual the work, the more valuable it was.

> The Industrial Revolution made producing homogenous products faster and cheaper.

> Assembly lines and factories offered workers a deal: give up your unique skills and ideas in exchange for an adequate but steady paycheck. Schools and corporations championed the idea of fitting in over being unique. Homogenous people were needed as easily replaceable cogs in the factories where those homogenous products were made faster and cheaper.

> This worked well until a few years ago when we reached the peak of manufacturing efficiency. Chasing ever-cheaper means of product production no longer works. The premise behind “the deal” with workers collapsed.

> Now the economy must reinvent itself (and workers along with it). Going forward, successful people will be “linchpins” . . . those who stand out rather than fit in.

> No two people are the same, just as no two snowflakes are the same. Each of us has things we do extremely well. These things are our “art”.

> The best thing we can do with our art is to give it away. When we give gifts without expectation of reciprocity it creates human connection and relationships.

(Pretty deep stuff, huh? I told you it takes time to process!)

> Linchpins are people who not only excel at their unique art (maximize their unique strengths), but create connection between people. They initiate ideas, work hard and make themselves indispensable to their organizations or the independent businesses they own.

> There is a primitive part of our head that Godin calls The Lizard Brain. It keeps us alive through our survival instincts, primarily through fear. By necessity, The Lizard Brain takes priority over the more refined parts of our minds.

> We must learn to disregard the fear messages sent by our Lizard Brain in order to hear our artistic mind. This is what makes us valuable in our post-Industrial Revolution economy.

In short, Linchpin encourages us to stand out, not fit in. We are to use our strengths to be unique (because that which is unique is not easily replaced, even in tough economic times).

The next time you’re looking to challenge yourself as a leader and spend some time in thought, I highly encourage you to read Linchpin by Seth Godin. It’s a great experience and well worth the effort.

QUOTES FROM SETH GODIN’S LINCHPIN

Linchpin by Seth GodinIf you’re not indispensable (yet) it’s because you haven’t made that choice.

Revolutions are frightening because the new benefits sometimes lag behind the old pain.

The hard work isn’t lifting or shoving or sharpening. The hard work is being brave enough to make a difference.

The culture of gifts has a long history on this planet, and understanding how it brings people together is a critical step in becoming indispensable.

Indispensable Linchpins are not waiting for instructions, but instead, figuring out what to do next. If you have a job where someone tells you what to do next, you’ve just given up the chance to create value.

Your personality and attitude are more important than the actual work product you create, because indispensable work is work that is connected to others.

A genius looks at something that others are stuck on and gets the world unstuck.

All of us are geniuses sometimes. The tragedy is that our society keeps drumming the genius part out.

We trade our genius and artistry for apparent stability.

Stop asking what’s in it for you and start giving gifts that change people.

The educated, hard-working masses are still doing what they’re told, but they’re no longer getting what they deserve.

If you’re not doing as well as you hoped, perhaps it’s because the rules of the game were changed, and no one told you.

You weren’t born to be a cog in the giant industrial machine. You were trained to become a cog.

You are not one of the myriad of interchangeable pieces, but a unique human being, and if you’ve got something to say, say it, and think well of yourself while you’re learning to say it better. – David Marmet

We are surrounded by bureaucrats, note takers, literalists, manual readers, TGIF laborers, map followers, and fearful employees.

There is no longer a clear path to satisfaction in working for the man.

The type of low-risk, high stability jobs that three-quarters of us crave have turned into dead-end traps of dissatisfaction and unfair risk.

The cause of workplace suffering is the desire of organizations to turn employees into replaceable cogs in a vast machine.

The indispensable employee brings humanity and connection and art to her organization.

Like scared civilians eager do whatever a despot tells of them, we give up our freedoms and responsibilities in exchange for the certainty that comes from being told what to do.

People want to be told what to do because they are afraid of figuring it out for themselves.

If you make your business possible to replicate, you’re not going to be the one to replicate it. Others will.

The people you’re hoping will hire you, buy from you, support you, and interact with you have more choices and less time than ever before.

You can always succeed for awhile with the cheapest, but you earn your place in the market with humanity and leadership.

There are no longer any great jobs where someone else tells you precisely what to do.

Any project, if broken down into sufficiently small, predictable parts, can be accomplished for awfully close to free.

Mediocre is merely a failed attempt to be really good.

Corporations have no right to our attention.

The only way to get what you’re worth is to stand out, to exert emotional labor, to be seen as indispensable, and to produce interactions that organizations and people care deeply about.

Most schools don’t like great teachers. They’re organized to stamp them out, bore them, bureaucratize them, and make them average.

Why are you working so hard to bury your natural-born instincts?

I’ve never met someone who had no art in them, though it’s buried sometimes.

We need you to stand up and be remarkable. Be human. Contribute. Interact.

Take the risk that you might make someone upset with your initiative, innovation, and insight – it turns out that you’ll probably delight them instead.

Consumers say that all they want are cheap commodities. Given the choice, though, most of us, most of the time, seek out art.

If you want a job where it’s okay to follow the rules, don’t be surprised if you get a job where following the rules is all you get to do.

If you want a job where the people who work for you do exactly what they’re told, don’t be surprised if your boss expects precisely the same thing from you.

If you want a job where you get to do more than follow instructions, don’t be surprised if you get asked to do things they never taught you in school.

If you want a job where you take intellectual risks all day long, don’t be surprised if your insights get you promoted.

Your outlook is completely due to your worldview.

Of course you can do something that matters. I’m wondering if you want to.

If you can be human at work, not a machine, you’ll discover a passion for work you didn’t know you had.

We’ve been trained to believe that mediocre obedience is a genetic fact for most of the population, but it’s interesting to note that this trait doesn’t show up until after a few years of schooling.

‘Keeping up with the Joneses’ is not a genetic predisposition. It’s an invented need.

Very few of us set out to be average or to be typical.

The essential thing measured by school is whether or not you’re good at school.

Many successful people got that way despite schooling, not because of it.

Solve interesting problems.

Leading is a skill, not a gift. You’re not born with it, you learn how. And schools can teach leadership as easily as they figured out how to teach compliance.

Calming your boss’ anxiety is the first step in getting the organization to embrace the change you will be making.

It doesn’t matter if you are always right. It matters that you’re always moving.

A brilliant author or businesswoman or senator or software engineer is brilliant only in teeny bursts. The rest of the time, they’re doing work that most any trained person could do.

It is the art and the insight and the bravery of value creation that are rewarded.

Expertise gives you enough insight to reinvent what everybody else assumes is the truth.

You can spend your time on stage pleasing the heckler in the back, or you can be devoted to the audience that came to hear you perform.

Organizations that can bring humanity and flexibility to their interaction with other human beings will thrive.

We spend time and energy trying to perfect our craft, but we don’t focus on the skills and interactions that will allow us to stand out and become indispensable to our organization.

The Linchpin feels the fear, acknowledges it, then proceeds.

Innovative solutions to new problems don’t get old.

Art is never defect-free.

They understand that there is no map, no step-by-step plan, and no way to avoid blame now and then.

Things that are remarkable never make spec, because that would make them standardized, not worth talking about.

If it wasn’t a mystery, it would be easy. If it were easy, it wouldn’t be worth much.

Good art is useless and banal. No one crosses the street to buy good art, or becomes loyal to a good artist. (Do great art.)

We’ve been teaching, cajoling, and yes, forcing people to hide their empathy and their creativity and pretend that they are fast-moving automatons, machines designed to do the company’s bidding.

As our economy has matured and mechanized, seeking out and adhering to the norm has become unprofitable.

Projects are the new resumes.

You are not your resume. You are your work.

If the game is designed for you to lose, don’t play that game. Play a different one.

If you need to conceal your true nature to get in the door, understand that you’ll probably have to conceal your true nature to keep that job.

You can work for a company that wants indispensable people, or you can work for a company that works to avoid them.

Work is nothing but a platform for art and the emotional labor that goes with it.

The gift is to the giver, and comes back to him. – Walt Whitman

Most artists can’t draw. – Roy Simmons

Great art resonates with the viewer, not only with the creator.

An artist is someone who uses bravery, insight, creativity, and boldness to challenge the status quo.

Art is a personal gift that changes the recipient. The medium doesn’t matter. The intent does.

Art is a personal act of courage, something one human does that creates change in another.

Art is a personal gift that changes the recipient.

Art is the product of emotional labor. If it’s easy and risk-free, it’s unlikely that it’s art.

There’s always a gift intent on the part of the artist.

Art is unique, new, and challenging to the status quo. It is not decoration; it’s something that causes change.

The moment you are willing to sell your time for money is the moment you cease to be the artist you’re capable of being.

When you give something away, you benefit more than the recipient does.

When it is time for layoffs, the safest job belongs to the artist, the Linchpin, the one who can’t easily be outsourced or replaced.

Certain sorts of art make us cry without embarrassment.

If you don’t pinpoint your audience, you end up making your art for the loudest, crankiest critics.

The easier it is to quantify, the less it’s worth.

Passion is caring enough about your art that you will do almost anything to give it away, to make it a gift, to change people.

When an artist stops work before his art is received, his work is unfulfilled.

Everyone, every single person, has been a genius at least once. If you can do it once, you can do it again.

The economy is ruthlessly punishing the fearful, and increasing the benefits to the few who are brave enough to create art and generous enough to give it away.

Creativity is an instinct to produce. – Bruce Ario.

Artists think along the edges of the box, because that’s where things get done.

I’ve produced more than 100 books, but if I hadn’t, I never have the chance to write this one.

The only purpose of starting is just to finish, and while the projects we do are never really finished, they must ship.

Any project worth doing involves invention, inspiration, and at least a little bit of making stuff up.

Being productive at someone else’s task list is not the same as making your own map.

Successful people are successful for one simple reason: they think about failure differently.

You become a winner because you’re good at losing.

Discomfort brings engagement and change. Discomfort means you’re doing something that others were unlikely to do, because they’re busy hiding out in the comfortable zone.

The people who break through usually have nothing to lose and they almost never have a backup plan.

One way to become creative is to discipline yourself to generate bad ideas. The worse the better. Do it a lot and magically you’ll discover that some good ones slip through.

You’re as capable as the next guy of insight, invention, or connection that makes a difference.

The temptation to sabotage the new thing is huge, precisely because the new thing might work.

Becoming more average, more quick, and more cheap is not as productive as it used to be.

Fear of living without a map is the main reason people are so insistent that we tell them what to do.

The smell of fear is the best indicator we have not to trust the other side.

Don’t listen to the cynics.  They’re cynics for a reason.

Late is the first step to never.

Pretending you know what you’re doing is almost the same as knowing what you’re doing, so except that you know what you’re doing even if you don’t and do it.

The point of being done is not to finish but to get other things done.

Failure counts as done. So do mistakes.

Done is the engine of more.

Trivial art isn’t worth the trouble it takes to produce it.

The difference between a successful artist and a failed one happens after the idea is hatched. The difference is the race to completion. Did you finish?

Anxiety is needless and imaginary. It’s fear about fear, fear that means nothing.

Anxiety doesn’t protect you from danger, but from doing great things.

No rewards for worriers.

The very thing you are afraid of occurs, precisely because you’re afraid of it.

A gift always creates a surplus as it spreads.

The astonishing fact is that most successful people in the world are those who don’t do it for the money.

The most successful givers aren’t doing it because they’re being told to. They do it because doing it is fun. It gives them joy.

Great bosses hire motivated people, set high expectations, and give their people room to be remarkable.

Respect is the gift you can offer in return.

Abandoning your worldview in order to try on someone else’s is the first step in being able to see things as they are.

The ability to see the world as it is begins with an understanding that perhaps it’s not your job to change what can’t be changed.

When our responses turn into reactions and we set out to teach people a lesson, we lose.

If you deliberately try to create a future that feels safe, you will willfully ignore the future that is likely.

Opportunities come after inspiration. We are not inspired by opportunities.

If your agenda is set by someone else and it doesn’t lead you where you want to go, why is it your agenda?

You can either fit in or stand out. Not both.

Being slightly remarkable is a losing strategy. Stand out.

How we respond to the opportunities and challenges of the outside world now determines how much the outside world values us.

Real change rarely comes from the front of the line.

Conventional wisdom is that you should find a job that matches your passion. I think this is backwards.

Transferring your passion to your job is far easier than finding a job that happens to match your passion.

When your people do what they do because they love it, it works. Even if they’re not as technically adept as the competition.

If you can do it brilliantly once, just once, then of course you can do it again.

If you burn out along the way, you’re not doing anyone a favor.

Dignity is more important than wealth.

After people have “enough” what they crave is dignity.

The individual who collects, connects, and nurtures relationships is indispensable.

Leadership starts with the gift you give, not with the manipulation you attempt.

Understanding that your job is to make something happen changes what you do all day.

Mentoring is rarely about the facts, but instead is a transfer of emotion and confidence.

Be bolder and think bigger. Nothing is stopping you.

Humility is our antidote to what is inevitably not going to go according to plan.

Humility permits us to approach a problem with kindness and not arrogance.

Trying and failing is better than merely failing, because trying makes you an artist and gives you the right to try again.

If you work for an organization that insists you be mediocre, that enforces conformity in all its employees, why stay?

You don’t start with the confidence of the company; you earn it.

You’re gifted, but you might not be gifted at what you’re doing right now.

Everybody has their own private Mount Everest they were put on this earth to climb.

The best way to get approval is not to need it.

Don’t try to stand out from the crowd; avoid crowds altogether.

Savor obscurity while it lasts.

You are responsible for your own experience.

Power is never given. Power is taken.

Beware of turning hobbies into jobs.

Merit can be bought. Passion can’t.

When your dreams become reality, they are no longer your dreams.

Dying young is overrated.

Don’t worry about finding inspiration. It comes eventually.

If your business plan depends on you suddenly being discovered by some big shot, your plan will probably fail.

Everyone is born creative; everyone is given a box of crayons in kindergarten.

Companies that squelch creativity can no longer compete with companies that champion creativity.

The hardest part of being creative is getting used to it.

Selling out is harder than it looks.

Avoid the watercooler gang.

Put the hours in.

The more talented somebody is, the less they need the props.

So, what’s smart? Living life without regret.

The certain thing is that you can change everything. If you choose to.

We can’t profitably get more average.

We’ve gone against our true nature and corporatized, anonymized, and dehumanized as many of our systems as we possibly can.

Which of Seth Godin’s ideas from Linchpin resonate with you? Leave a comment below.


 

Quotes From The Catalyst Dallas Leadership Conference 2013

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The Catalyst Dallas leadership conference was held at Bent Tree Bible Fellowship this year. Here are some great quotes and resources from the conference’s Twitter feed:

DAY THREE

@ryneisaac: “What is the future you’re creating right now?” -Erwin McManus

@PastorGad: “A model is a small imitation of the real thing” @erwinmcmanus.  Are you looking 4 a model to follow, or the real thing?

@Heath_Lewis: “Those who create the future are friends of failure.” Erwin McManus

@raquelrussell: Creators understand that their greatest gift is their imagination @erwinmcmanus

@fwatsondesigns: Whoa. “We are the materialization of that which God imagined, the “seen” which was created out of the unseen.” @erwinmcmanus

@dkrichards: RT @sl_richards: We were imagined by imagination and imagination is the playground of God. @erwinmcmanus

@kevin_bryant: A future based on what you know will look like the past. A future based on what you don’t know will change history. @erwinmcmanus

@CatalystLeader: God created us in His image to MAKE the invisible, visible. via @erwinmcmanus

@CatalystLeader: If God imagined you at birth, what makes you think He’s stopped imagining you now. via @erwinmcmanus

@dustin_mclean: Materialize the invisible @erwinmcmanus

@philipjoh: “You are the material of God’s imagination.” @erwinmcmanus #MindBlown

@KellyJoArtist: It is time we stop protecting what God did and start creating what God is doing. @erwinmcmanus

@MiamiAsh: What is wrong with us when we want to do the past better than the future @erwinmcmanus

@letsgocubs1908: “You are more than a maker of fire; You usher eternity into time” @erwinmcmanus

@christina_hite: “Lions do what lions do. Gazelles do what gazelles do. But humans do what they can imagine.” @erwinmcmanus

@kevin_bryant: We are stewards of the future. @erwinmcmanus #makehistory

@sl_richards: God is always doing a new thing. All God DOES is make the NEW. @erwinmcmanus

@ErichRobinson: “Someone imagined it and that is why we have it!” @erwinmcmanus

@kevin_bryant: Those who create the future are the friends of failures and imperfections. @erwinmcmanus

@fwatsondesigns: A life of faithfulness is not a life of faith. There’s a heroic narrative that calls us to step out in faith. @erwinmcmanus

@AdamJBennett1: I AM MADE TO MAKE!  – @erwinmcmanus

@AlexanderMcMath: @erwinmcmanus “I’m so happy at 54 that all my brain can do is dream

@julie_pierce: @CatalystLeader  3 questions for debriefing your conference experience: http://t.co/CsWhCHWLVS

@blainec24: For some reason I love that Driscoll is speaking right after a talk on vulnerability. #snarky

@BertAlcorn: Pumped to be watching @PastorMark at #catalyst Dallas. Can’t wait for him to yell at me.

@PastorMark: Ready to take the stage. Kicking it off with a skinny jeans joke.

@stevebullard: I’ve seen some of you guys with your top button buttoned. How is that? Enjoyable? -Mark Driscoll

@WBD_1023: “Why does this photo make me look fat? Uhh, cause it’s a good camera.” @PastorMark

@alanmarmstrong: “Trucks. Guns. Heterosexuality.  This ain’t Seattle.” – @PastorMark #catalyst dude is on a roll talking about our IDENTITY!

@schmidt_zak: I know who made the environment and one day he is coming back to burn it down & make it new anyways. That’s why I drive my truck

@MaryDeMuth: And then you have children and you’re identity is gone. @PastorMark #tongueincheek

@robgreene: “It makes a guy a miniMANto drive a miniVAN” a little standup from @PastorMark at #catalyst

@wwwdotPearl: Who I think I am determines what I do. @PastorMark

@nancyneves: Who you think you are is what compels you to do what you do!  #markdriscoll

@jeffreydaguilar: Who you are determines what you do. Not the other way around. @PastorMark

@martyburroughs: Things may explain who you are but they don’t define you @PastorMark

@pchedgecock: Our identity is not achieved its received (Jesus) @PastorMark

@MaryDeMuth: Don’t let your ministry become idolatry. @PastorMark

@jeffreydaguilar: Humility means “know your place.” @PastorMark

@jeffreydaguilar: If you know your identity you’ll know what to do. @PastorMark

@jeffreydaguilar: You are not what you do. You are what Christ has done for you. @PastorMark

@DigitalMolly: I don’t need to be perfect because Jesus is my perfection. @PastorMark

@jlgerhardt: Mark Driscoll is yelling at me RIGHT NOW. #notsurprised

@jeffreydaguilar: Working for yourself instead of from yourself you will destroy yourself. @PastorMark

@robgreene: “Only faithful followers make fruitful leaders.” @PastorMark

@SGeoThomas: “We need to think biblically before we act practically; thinking biblically gives us the wisdom to act practically” (@PastorMark)

@brianvbradford: When people fail u, remember that Jesus never will. @PastorMark

@stefanieybrown: “We’re not just leaders. We’re also followers.” @pastormark

@etgarland: Mark Driscoll at #catalyst… Love him or hate him… He is a game changer.

@CampMullican: When we armor up against vulnerability we armor up against connection.  Dr. Brene Brown

@yp_caleb: Vulnerability is scary. But it is not as scary as getting to the end of your life and never haven’t shown up. @BreneBrown

@raquelrussell: As a leader, you’re going to get your a$$ kicked. It’s just going to happen. You’re gonna get hurt. @BreneBrown

@staciezellmer: @brenebrown “if you’re not in the arena every once in a while getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.” LEAD

@wwwdotPearl: Folks who judge what I do from an anonymous or non-engaged position are sitting in cheap seats and are irrelevant.

@CatalystLeader: Leadership – vulnerability = disengagement via @BreneBrown

@JLee1611: “Leadership who just motivates & manages actually manipulates. Leadership is about inspiring people.” – @brenebrown

@jdvoss: Your vulnerability is the first thing I look for and mine is the last thing I want you to see. @BreneBrown

@KellyJoArtist: In the absence of love and belonging is always suffering @brenebrown

@blainec24: “Vulnerability is going on a first date after a divorce.” @BreneBrown Thankful my wife was vulnerable!

@MiamiAsh: If you are going to be brave you are going to get hurt. @brenebrown

@CatalystLeader: Vulnerability is the birthplace of faith. via @BreneBrown

@CatalystLeader: As a leader you can chose comfort or you can chose courage, but you can’t have both. via @BreneBrown

@212_Pastor: “I refuse to believe girls only like the guys who are running the other direction.” – A random dude talking to Brene Brown at #catalyst

@MarshallSimpson: This is one of the greatest moments in my life as a Dallas Cowboys fan. Emmitt Smith is at #Catalyst!!! #childhooddreams

@CatalystLeader: RT @pastoradam: You may be talented, but you better work on your talent or it could leave you. @EmmittSmith22

@MindyColvin: Paraphrasing Emmitt Smith: If you’re not interested in growing as a person, you’re not going to be a valuable part of any team.

@bjasonb: You may be talented, gifted, etc. but if you don’t work at it you won’t be as great as you can be. Emmitt Smith

@MiamiAsh: Never become satisfied with anything. You always have room to grow. Keep living! @emmittsmith

@JustinTheViking: “What I did yesterday was yesterday’s news, I need to make some new news today… Stay humble and stay focused
-Emmit Smith

@rustygreer01: It was not my skill that made me a great running back, it was my heart and passion for the game. Emmitt Smith

@rafmnk: Know your play book, understand your assignment become better -emmit smith

@pammajors: ” Be open to learn more. You can always be better at whatever it is you do.” Emmitt Smith

@blainec24: “My wedding ring is my super bowl ring of life” @emmittsmith

@j3hooper: Offense sell tickets… Defense wins championships – that’s for the Cowboys and for me. Loving @EmmittSmith22

@rustygreer01: I learned more from my failures than. from my successes. Emmitt Smith

@markleenerts: Your attitude determines your aptitude! – Emmitt Smith

@AllysonLFoster: “@CatalystLeader: Health is a tremendous attribute for pursuing your dreams. via @EmmittSmith22

@carriebourne: Never become satisfied. The day you become satisfied is the day you stop growing. #emmittsmith

@chavis_t: If you’re in it, be in it to win it. via Emmit Smith

@Brian_Galbraith: The key to winning is evaluation. We all tend to evaluate when we lose, but winners evaluate everything. @emmittsmith

@_JenniferB_: “To whom much is given, much is required.” -EmmittSmith22

@aw_b: Those things you let slide will catch up to you at an inopportune moment. @EmmittSmith22

@Brian_tumc_ym: Emit Smith was just asked, ‘Who hit you the hardest?’ his answer ‘You wouldn’t know her. It was my mom. I deserved it’ Ha

@danitowner: “As God unfolds the possibilities and opportunities sitting at our fingertips, may we not just lead now, but lead well.”

@myhealthychurch: RT @philipjoh: “You can’t take someone where you haven’t been. You can’t give someone something you don’t have.” @scottwilson7

@pastoradam: No one would remember the Good Samaritan if he only had good intentions. -Margaret Thatcher via @DaveRamsey

@tapkenchris: Critical question most can’t answer: what have you DONE in your life

@joshuaconner: “Broke people can’t feed people.” @DaveRamsey

@pchedgecock: Handle God’s money for God’s Kingdom in God’s way! @DaveRamsey

@e_sayi: Three spirits surrounding wealth: Martha (pride), Judas (it comes from the devil), and Mary (gratitude). ~ @DaveRamsey

@leonm78207: Just because you can tweet, doesn’t mean your opinion is valid.

@SalazarTim: The more grateful I am, the more excellent I will be at managing God’s money @DaveRamsey

@tidoramon: “David left over $21 billion dollars to Solomon to build God’s kingdom, by our standards.” @DaveRamsey

@BTylerEllis: “Wealth comes FROM hard work but not BECAUSE of hard work. Wealth comes because of God. Everything is His” @DaveRamsey

@blainec24: “You don’t have to be the poorest in the neighborhood to prove that you are a Christian.” @DaveRamsey

@blainec24: “A lot of us are conservative politically and not biblically correct enough.” @DaveRamsey

@leonm78207: Just because you can tweet, doesn’t mean your opinion is valid.

@hlanderson: “Wimpified culture we live in where everyone is self-important” @DaveRamsey

@coachgoodenough: “Just because you can get on the Internet does not mean that your opinion is valid.” Dave Ramsey

@MaryDeMuth: No farmer ever grew the corn and took credit for the sun that grew it. @DaveRamsey

@RockinRandy: @DaveRamsey at #Catalyst said, “It’s not when u were born & die that matters on ur tombstone. It’s what you do with the “-” in the middle

@jeff_r_ward: @DaveRamsey danger is that folks think if I can afford it & pay cash for it, I’m good to buy it. That’s not a stewardship mindset.

@jeffreydaguilar: Money is not a pleasure, it is a responsibility. @DaveRamsey

@CatalystLeader: Money is a tool to be used for the kingdom. via @DaveRamsey

@MaryDeMuth: Wealth comes from God, and God still owns it all. @DaveRamsey

@CatalystLeader: You are not an owner. You are a manager. via @DaveRamsey

@ACUSeth: Wow! @DaveRamsey just made many people at #catalyst angry, and it was awesome! Wealth isn’t evil if we know its God’s money. #spoketruth

@TheJakeTurner: In a world full a famous speakers, there are few I could listen to all day. @DaveRamsey is one of the few.

@jacobfam4: Just saw a fake proposal at Catalyst. What people will do for an iPod! I so would have, too!

@jlgerhardt: Don’t just listen to other people’s stories. Look for God and you’ll find your own.

@joeybcook: Leaders: You’re message starts in the parking lot, not the pulpit. @AndyStanley

@josueMacK: You set a goal… You celebrate a win. There is a difference. – @AndyStanley

@ryanleak: It is much easier to educate a Doer than to activate a Thinker. -@AndyStanley

@Stuart_Large: “Clarify the win. Who we are, what we’re doing, and how we do it here.”

@MaryDeMuth: Performance oriented people like to win. Define the win. @AndyStanley

@Stuart_Large: “Performance-oriented people are too busy doing to complain.” -Andy Stanley

@christophobu: if there is no interdependency within a church or team there is no way for them to produce high performance results @AndyStanley

@fwatsondesigns: Put your best doers on your best opportunity. Don’t put a lid on your ministry because you’re afraid of hurting some feelings.

@jeffreydaguilar: High performance teams require high performance people. @AndyStanley

@paulcrowson: if you spend all your time trying to teach a fish to climb a tree it will spend it’s whole life thinking it’s stupid! @AndyStanley

@LukeAPerkins: “Paul wasn’t a guy who sat around and thought about it, he got on a boat and got things done.” -@AndyStanley

@TableforOneMin: Paul was a doer and a single adult!  Singles can be our best doers!

@geoffmclarty: Rent thinkers, hire do-ers!

@Kalebmoore: If you don’t know how something works when it’s working, you won’t know how to fix it when it breaks. – @AndyStanley

@jeremypeterson: We are great at evaluating problems and not so good at evaluating excellence – @AndyStanley

@CatalystLeader: The greatest agent of change in your organization is a crystal clear vision. via @AndyStanley

@jeremypeterson: If there is no interdependency within a church there is no way for them to produce high performance results – via @AndyStanley

@aw_b: Put your best people in the best places for them. The org chart is not your friend. @AndyStanley

@ErichRobinson: Leaders on a team can’t stand sideways energy. @AndyStanley

@willmancini: Church Unique Snapshot: How Andy Stanley Uses Five Faith Catalysts as Mission Measures  http://t.co/KvNGgQmib0

@clarkfrailey: If you put a lid on your organization because you’re trying to be nice, you’re a bad leader. -Andy Stanley

@FastChurch: When you clarify the win (@andystanley) beware of 3 kinds of weak vision #catalyst http://t.co/o5rbH4mdee

@sjcolquitt: “I am not the artist; I am the canvas.” @prophiphop

@mattmikalatos: Great interview with #Catalyst leader @Bradlomenick! http://t.co/3E6YxyvxpJ

@BienRyan: “Some of you grown ups make being grown up look sad.” Funny stuff from Kid President!

@cRoD9583: “Insert very profound quote I heard at catalyst here

@calebjobe: There are two Christian men styles… Bald with beard, or comb-over with glasses…

@Buster_86: Not sure I own enough skinny jeans to be in church leadership.

DAY TWO

@chavis_t: Sometimes God does not provide the details because he knows we can’t handle the details. via @CraigGroeschel

@brandonbrister: Spend more time being interested than trying to be interesting.  @AndyStanley

@joshdhall: “Healthy people & healthy organizations are far more open to change than unhealthy people & unhealthy orgs are!”  @AndyStanley

@joshdhall: “Healthy people & healthy cultures have their backs to one another & their eyes focused outwardly on others.” @AndyStanley

@chavis_t: Our reactions determine our reach. If we are going to have better relationships, we must have better reactions. ~ @LysaTerKeurst

@Heath_Lewis: “Jesus does not ask us to care for the less fortunate. He demands it.” @katieinuganda

@CampMullican: The intersection of our greatest strength and passion is our sweet spot.

@lucas_avail: If you don’t know your purpose you might feel worthless.- Propoganda

@preacherrich: You can never feel forgiven except by one who knows what you did. -Reggie Joiner

@sl_richards: You will only be remembered by the people who know you now. @reggiejoiner

@sl_richards: Parents: what you do with your kids over time MATTERS. @reggiejoiner

@CatalystLeader: If you are not investing in a kid, teenager or college student you should be! @ReggieJoiner

@CatalystLeader: There’s a difference between legacy and fame. We’re not called to be famous, we’re called to leave a legacy. @reggiejoiner

@wwwdotPearl: I need to intentionally make what matters, matter more.

@russellpage: “The Bible does not say ‘CHANGE your neighbor as yourself’; it says ‘LOVE your neighbor as yourself’.” @reggiejoiner

@raquelrussell: When all else fails generosity wins. Generosity always wins. @DaveRamsey

@jeffreydaguilar: You won’t ever lose by being generous. @DaveRamsey

@CatalystLeader: Your reactions will impact the reach of your influence. via @LysaTerKeurst

@Vyrso: 8 Essentials for Becoming a Change Maker: an interview with @bradlomenick http://t.co/6unFu5YXe0

@shelleygiglio: your responsibilities might increase but your purpose never will be any bigger than to serve @louiegiglio

@BTylerEllis: “We’re not here to make a name. We’re here to make a difference” @craiggroeschel

@blainec24: “Don’t build your ministry on what you are against, build it on what you are FOR” @craiggroeschel

@jlmdad: If you knew how it was going to get done, then God wouldn’t get the glory when it gets done. @craiggroeschel

@SirJacobWhite: Making a spiritual leader: spiritual prompting, certain uncertainty, predictable resistance, uncommon clarity. -@craiggroeschel

@wwwdotPearl: To step towards my destiny, I have to step away from my security. @craiggroeschel

@Heath_Lewis: “Don’t worry when you face resistance. Worry when you don’t.” @craiggroeschel

@yp_caleb: If people don’t occasionally think your a cult, it means your not doing squat. @craiggroeschel

@BTylerEllis: “If you blame yourself for the declines, you’ll take credit for the increases” @craiggroeschel

@tjwardNC: RT @CatalystLeader: If you aren’t willing to face opposition, you aren’t ready or willing to be used by God. @craiggroeschel

@jeff_r_ward: In failure, God will use it to do something IN you to prepare to do something THROUGH you. @craiggroeschel

@SGeoThomas: “Here’s the truth: God will never be handcuffed by your failures or unleashed by your successes.” (@jonacuff)

@franknichols: You will never be ready for that moment when you can change the world, but that’s okay because we serve a God who is! – @JonAcuff t

@KyleRoseberry: “Today is the only day we have. Today is fact, tomorrow is fiction” Jon Acuff

@Msnellings: Fear is schizophrenic, it argues both sides of the coin. – Acuff

@jeremypeterson: God’s not dependent on your platform, your platform is dependent on God – via @JonAcuff

@wwwdotPearl: Fear will give me every excuse that I will ever need to never be what I was created to become.

@rickmeistergolf: “Enough” is a toxic word @johnacuff

@Zech846: When God launched the rescue mission called Jesus, He didn’t do it so we could be ordinary. @JonAcuff

@hughbreland: “It’s not about when you were born, it’s about when you decide to live” @JonAcuff

@jdvoss: RT @blainec24: “What do you do when all the excuses to chase your dreams are gone?” @JonAcuff

@georgecarballo: “You don’t have to be READY, because we have a READY God!! You’ll never out-dream or out-make God!!” @JonAcuff

@sl_richards: You can’t out-dream God. @jonacuff

@CatalystLeader: The only line you can control is the starting line, you can’t control the finish line. @JonAcuff

@ksraines: In today’s culture, hope is boss. ~ Jon Acuff

@Rijken: “Retirement is dead.” – @JonAcuff

@ncostello88: Life moves quickly. Don’t let it pass you by. @JonAcuff

@BTylerEllis: “To have the thumbprint of God means you’re not average” @JonAcuff

@ncostello88: If you start investing when you’re a fetus, you could be a millionaire by 32. @JonAcuf

@ryneisaac: The Internet is not done swallowing industries. @JonAcuff

@joshkimbrell: Forgot to pack my skinny jeans, plaid shirt, and non prescription black rimmed glasses. #unhip

@blainec24: I’ve seen just as many hipsters as I have cowboys at the Dallas #catalyst. What is this the PacNW!?

@LilMamaRed: Men are actually standing guard in front of the EMPTY women’s restroom so men can use it! Long line for the men’s!

@mikedmurray: God may choose to make you through an unexpected opportunity you feel totally unprepared for. @AndyStanley

@Mr_Silvertooth: It’s not the opportunity that God gives you that will mark you. It’s your response to that opportunity! – @AndyStanley

@chuckandcindy: Actions don’t only speak louder than words sometimes they echo over into the next generation. @AndyStanley

@loreferguson: “Pay attention to the tension.” Andy Stanley

@ZachWLambert: “It’s better to make a difference than to make a point.” Andy Stanley

@wwwdotPearl: There is a distinct difference between position and influence. @AndyStanley

@RobelOGmike: Burdens birth vision -Andy Stanley

@livinglocurto: Leaders seize the opportunities that others are afraid to do. Via @AndyStanley

@TraciTakesTea: We must be doers, not hearers only! @MaryDeMuth: Information and insight alone do not a leader make. @AndyStanley

@MaryDeMuth: We learn almost nothing when we win. @AndyStanley

@joeybcook: Leaders are made one response at a time.

@CameronWhaley: God gets more done in the desperate times than in the wrinkle free days – @AndyStanley

@sjcolquitt: Obey God and trust Him with the consequences. – Andy Stanley

@ncostello88: The leader is not always the first to see an opportunity, they are the first to seize it. @AndyStanley

@Msnellings: “Insight & information do not a leader make.” Andy Stanley

@tobannion: “Don’t spend your ministry lobbing truth grenades into culture.” –  Andy Stanley

@lucas_avail: God isn’t in the process of making us (future tense) but in the process of making us now!!! – Andy Stanley

@Msnellings: “God has a plan for your life & you don’t want to miss it.” Charles Stanley

@Kelly__Clark: God created us to #MAKE,  culture convinces us to consume. Who do you listen to?

@swedishbaldguy: “The most important thing you do for the kingdom of God may not be something you do, but someone you raise” – Andy Stanley

@blainec24: Your current response to unexpected opportunity, unavoidable adversity, & unquestionable calling is making you currently. -Stanley

@wwwdotPearl: Do I pray out of discipline or our of desperation?

@Kelly__Clark: God created us to #MAKE,  culture convinces us to consume. Who do you listen to?

DJ Opdiggy

DJ Opdiggy warms up the crowd.

@DustinSlaton: Really glad the white people at #Catalyst stayed in their seats during @opdiggy’s awesome DJ set. It could have got ugly real quick

@josiahjehu: I like cats. I just can’t eat a whole one by myself though. @craiggroeschel

@BertAlcorn: Do you live in the Texas? Did your hipster go missing? Come and find them at #catalyst Dallas

DAY ONE – LABS

@IamRobbyGordon: As a missional leader you should help your people love their savior first and their mission second via Matt Carter

@brockstamps: 18-34yr olds want to START something. This is a “6 lane freeway” opportunity for the Church. @davidkinnaman

@SimmonsEvan: “This generation is looking for a bigger story … than the norm of our culture of consumption.” @davidkinnaman

@Msnellings: “Daniel had two types of courage. The courage to be pure & proximate.” David Kinnaman

@lairdgirl: RT Stasi Eldredge: “God is the only one who can tell u who u are.” #catalyst

@lbjloren: “Know Christ, make Him know…the vehicle doesn’t matter.” @prophiphop #catalyst

@CatalystLeader: It is in our weakness and in our trembling that God will be great. via @JennieAllen

@Mabry2Ashley: Take away the spiritual aspect of worship songs and it is just minor chords. Hahahahahaha sooooo true

@IamRobbyGordon: As a missional leader you are a person who leads your people to understand the urgency of the mission @_Matt_Carter

@BTylerEllis: “The purpose of creativity is to bring people closer to the face of Jesus Christ” @loswhit

@LiveInFreedom: “Many believers r more influenced by conserv talk radio than by the Bible. We don’t know how 2 live n Babylon.” @davidkinnaman

@IamRobbyGordon: Is your church against the city, in the city, with the city or FOR the city? @_Matt_Carter

@staciezellmer: @davidkinnaman we’re at an interesting time in history, where all the greatest inventions of history are available in our pocket.

@Criesto: Creativity is natural. Discipline is not. But you need discipline to amplify creativity. -Jim Collins

@ljallen20: “Just show up each day and bring your little bit of willingness and let God take it” Lysa TerKeurst

@SimmonsEvan: “God meets us at our point of impossibility. God just wants us to show up.” @lysaterkeurst

@ksraines: Facing a wall of impossibility? Show up and bring your little bit of willingness. God will meet you there. Lysa Terkhurst

@LiveInFreedom: “If we’re going to be people of faith, then we have to be willing to live a life that requires faith.” @LysaTerKeurst

@Charleski: Will I allow God’s extraordinary presence to invade my ordinary life – to do whatever HE wants in the impossible! @LysaTerKeurst

@Heath_Lewis: “If all other blessings of this life were stripped away, would my Jesus still be enough?” @LysaTerKeurst

@johnpaine: “Visionaries manage stories” @charlestlee

@darvelmckinney: @herbertcooper People can’t distinguish between the God factor and the human factor

@Msnellings: “Vision creates culture.” Charles Lee

@brockstamps: Think BIG. Start small. Keep moving. @charlestlee

@LesleyHemphill: “You have to BE the community you wish you had.” @JonAcuff

@abfchurch: The God that we serve is bigger than any Giant that we face.

@tommycavalier: “Small doors open the BIG things.” @herbertcooper

@russknight: Discipleship = information + imitation + innovation.

@ksraines: Missional living needs to be small enough to care, big enough to dare.~Jo Saxton

@brockstamps: Over promising and under delivering will chip away at your credibility. FOLLOW THROUGH. @charlestlee

@michaelcriner: “You can’t teach missional living if you aren’t living on mission.” @josaxton

@blainec24: “This is the 1st generation that doesn’t need adults for information. They need them for interpretation.” -Tim Elmore

@blainec24: “Parents need to stop treating their children like their trophies. Living out their lives through their children.” -Tim Elmore

@blainec24: “The average teen is only ‘disconnected’ from technology for 1 hour a day!” – Tim Elmore

@blainec24: Generation of Paradox…1. They are sheltered…yet pressured. -Tim Elmores

@blainec24: Generation of Paradox…2. They are self-absorbed…yet generous. -Tim Elmore

@blainec24: @blainec24: Generation of Paradox…3. They are social…yet isolated by technology. -Tim Elmore

@blainec24: @blainec24: Generation of Paradox…4. They are adventuresome…yet protected. -Tim Elmore

@blainec24: @blainec24: Generation of Paradox…5. They are team oriented…yet diverse. -Tim Elmore

@blainec24: Generation of Paradox…6. They are visionary…yet vacillating. -Tim Elmore #catalyst #labs

@blainec24: Generation of Paradox…7. Orientation is high achievement…yet high maintenance. -Tim Elmore

@blainec24: Generation of Paradox…8. They are growing up too fast…and too slow at the same time. -Tim Elmore

@Brian_tumc_ym: 26 is the new 18 @timelmore Culture asking youth to grow up too quickly & too slowly at the same time.

@CatalystLeader: People are looking at Jesus and our lives and wondering if its really true. via @bobgoff

@JohannaInwood: The smallest act of love answers the question of if we really love the way we say we will. @bobgoff

@SimmonsEvan: “Surround yourself with prompts that remind you of Christ.” @bobgoff

@IamRobbyGordon: “We don’t own the gospel, we’re just the caretakers of it.” Love does @bobgoff

@CatalystLeader: Love God. Love people. Do stuff! via @bobgoff

@petebriscoe: “I give myself two epic fails a year“. @bobgoff #benotafraid

@MaryDeMuth: There’s a big difference between being invited versus being welcomed. @bobgoff

@IamRobbyGordon: When you start loving like Jesus does, it gets on you. But it’t ok because it looks good on you @bobgoff

@brockstamps: Jesus didn’t go around holding everyone accountable…he held them close. @bobgoff

@bre53: Biggest takeaway from @bobgoff: “Be picky about what you say.” Also, don’t just agree w/the Gospel, DO IT.

@raquelrussell: Christ was a leader who always had time for a ‘tug on his robe’ and the children. Leaders r humble. @JonAcuff

@staciezellmer: @stacey_spenser “Get” the importance of excellence in customer exp at church. Churches have customers? Yes. Members have options!

@DanielWindsor: “Failure is apart of the journey. Let them learn, let them fail.” -Tim Elmore

@tylerrudek: “Promoting your gift makes you look like an expert. Practicing your gift makes you an expert.” @JonAcuff

@MattFerg03: “Practicing, not promoting, will make you an expert in your craft.” – @JonAcuff

@PROMISETANGEMAN: “You have to be FIRST! You have to BE the community you wish you had” -@JonAcuff

@ljallen20: “Uncertainty is the reason leaders have a job”. Don’t let problems discourage u!

@michaelcriner: “Celebrity is the worst drug in Christianity.” @JonAcuff

@MeghanGatewood: Take time to create and design to create @shinabarger

@raquelrussell: Keys to leading: help others win, speak their language, extend grace @JonAcuff

@petebriscoe: “Scarcity demands innovation.” So true! @bradlomenick

Catalyst Stage

The main stage at Catalyst Dallas just prior to the opening session.

@motmob: What’s your end goal? See it and live so you reach it. @herbertcooper

@Stacie_Hubb: There are a lot if things you “can” do but only a few things you were “made” to do.

@BTylerEllis: “Once you realize all you have is a gift from God, it’s easier to be humble” @RachelCruze

Catalyst offers resources for leaders and several conferences for leaders throughout the year. More information: http://catalystconference.com/. Photos courtesy Blaine Christenson.

 


 

Top 10 Quotes From The Exponential Church Planting & Discipleship Conference

This year’s Exponential Conference was the largest yet. It sold out 5,300 seats at First Baptist Orlando. Another 40,000 people from 90 countries watched the live stream and commented in the #Exponential Twitter stream. These are the top quotes from that stream (tweet author is noted before each quote):

Jim Putman's new book "Discipleshift" debuted at the Exponential Conference. Discipleshift was also the Exponential Conference theme.

Jim Putman’s new book “Discipleshift” debuted at the Exponential Conference. Discipleshift was also the Exponential Conference theme.

10. @ThomasPauk: One who learns from the master is a student, one who’s wanting to live like the master is a disciple. – C. Kalinowski

9. @mosaicpastor: “State your vision. Stage your vision. Staff your vision.” @PastorRay

8. @mosaicpastor: “Jesus didn’t say your church wins or my church wins. He said that his church wins.” – Jim Putnam

7. @justinbowers2: “Teachers hate large classrooms.  Why is it that every pastor wants what every teacher hates?”

6. @churchplanting: Jesus’ mission is not to make converts; it never has been. His mission is to make disciples. – Jim Putman

5. @craigbrown65: If you don’t think you have issues, that’s your issue. – Chris Hodges

4. @churchplanting: We make the church like a theater and are then surprised when people respond like theater goers. – Ed Stetzer

3. @robcizek: Jesus is the greatest disciple-maker in history. How many disciples did he have? – Jim Putman

2. @keruxsm: We teach what we know, we reproduce what we are.

1. @momentumcc: “Your greatest contribution to the kingdom maybe those u r tucking in at night.” Wes Stafford (Your kids are your most important disciples.)

More great quotes:

@RonEdmonson: “Public charisma without private character will ruin you as a leader.” @waynecordeiro

@danieljfick: From leadership perspective, it shouldn’t be “we can do it & you can help,” but “you can do it & we can help.

@johncremeans: People don’t need a perfect example, they need a living example. – @Mike_Breen

@churchplanting: Technology can inspire, encourage, and teach. Technology can’t reproduce. – @waynecordeiro

@mosaicpastor: When we work, we work. When we pray, God works. – @jsorvik

@RobJacobs_: Leaders are creators and curators of culture. You are not just planting a church you are planting a culture.

@SisJessMarquez: “You can’t separate the teachings of Jesus from the methods of Jesus and expect the results of Jesus.”

@MikeCelebrating: Jesus only mentions church a few times in the gospels but mentions disciples 260 times.

@NewThingNetwork: “Live your life as a missions trip.” – Reggie McNeal

@ericbryant: “Never delegate to someone who wants a title. Delegate to someone who wants to do the work.” – @SledgeHS

My notes from Larry Osborne’s breakout session “Discipleship in the Real World” #Exponential13 – http://t.co/53MuZwiNrL @ChurchPlanting

@cnieuwhof: For your team at #exponential: how to avoid 5 conference traps almost every team falls into: http://t.co/ooHBfPyo86

The Exponential Conference is held annually. Exponential.org has great discipleship and church planting resources, including several free ebooks.