Top 10 Leadership Quotes From The Orange Tour 2014

Here are the top leadership quotes and ministry quotes from this year’s Orange Tour. Each year the good folks at Orange tour several cities teaching leadership and family ministry. Our church hosts the Seattle stop. Here are highlights:

TOP LEADERSHIP QUOTES

Orange Tour#10. Being afraid isn’t failure, staying afraid is. – @JonAcuff

#9. Just because something is true doesn’t mean that it will be embraced. – @ReggieJoiner

#8. Sometimes you need to risk and sacrifice what you are currently doing for the sake of what could be. – @CNieuwhof

#7. Stop thinking like a teacher… act like a coach. – @ReggieJoiner

#6. When you raise bar, high capacity people show up. – @CNieuwhof

#5. Surround yourself with voices that value what is dynamic as much as what is core. – @ReggieJoiner

#4. You’ve got to do character on the front end, not the back end. – @CNieuwhof

#3. As a leader, you are driven by mission, but you succeed because of strategy. – @ReggieJoiner

#2. The scope of your influence is determined by the success of your leaders. – @ReggieJoiner

#1. People admire your strengths, but they resonate with your weaknesses. – @CNieuwhof

TOP 12 MINISTRY QUOTES

Orange Tour - Reggie Joiner#12. People aren’t looking for friendliness, they are looking for friends. – @ReggieJoiner

#11. Trust leads to stronger faith, but doubt can also lead to stronger faith. – @ReggieJoiner

#10. Jesus never started with theology. He started with ministry. Where you start with someone is important. – @CNieuwhof

#9. God is not surprised or disappointed by the size of your ministry. – @JonAcuff

#8. If you never let your kids process their own doubts, they’ll never own their own faith. – @ReggieJoiner

#7. Don’t make the things in the world the enemy. – @ReggieJoiner

#6. Maturity takes time… we have to be willing to give people time. @CNieuwhof

#5. The greatest apologetic is a transformed life, not a full mind. – @ReggieJoiner

#4. One day when parents and kids think about your church, YOU will be what they remember. – @CNieuwhof

#3. The production at your churches doesn’t change lives. Relationships do. – @CNieuwhof

#2. You should invest in insiders. You should prioritize for outsiders. – @ReggieJoiner

#1. In the future, dialog will trump monolog.- @CNieuwhof

BONUS QUOTES

Orange Tour - Seattle Northshore Christian ChurchThe church should be the safest place to ask questions. – @ReggieJoiner

As leaders, our mission is to influence those who influence the next generation. – @ReggieJoiner

If you aim at nothing you’ll hit it every time. What are you aiming at? – @JimWideman

When you start with a self-depreciating story as a leader, it works… because they all can relate to you. – @CNieuwhof

Kids may be leaving the church because there it is not a safe place to ask their tough questions. – @CNieuwhof

Tension doesn’t make a truth less true, it makes it more real. – @ReggieJoiner

Sometimes in our zeal to fight for what is true, we don’t fight for the tensions that actually connect those truths to what is real. – @ReggieJoiner

Sometimes a truth can lose clarity when it’s divorced from the reality of the other truths that amplify it. – @ReggieJoiner

When there’s tension, there’s opportunity. Tension creates a platform for conversation. – @ReggieJoiner

“You can’t tell kids to be the church one day if you haven’t given them the opportunity to be the church now.” – @ReggieJoiner

Kids will not believe they are signficant until you give them something significant to do. – @ReggieJoiner

You should enjoy going to church. We should create church as a place people want to be. – @ReggieJoiner

You may become a Christian in a moment, but it takes forever to figure out what that means. – @ReggieJoiner

Working with children is like planting an orchard. You might not see results until years later. – @ReggieJoiner

What God has given me is what I need to say yes to. – @JonAcuff

You will never be able to out-produce what’s available in culture. Culture can’t out-“community” your church. – @ReggieJoiner

Beliefs matter. Start wrestling with doctrine & principles & ask hard questions-it’s important! – @ReggieJoiner

What do you need to do differently today… to reach the people you want to reach tomorrow? – @CNieuwhof

Orange Blog Rob CizekCONFERENCE NOTES

Tweet From Elle Campbell: For more notes from @ellllllllllle and @kennnnnnnnny on creating a safe space for students, visit http://ellecampbell.org/orangetour

Tweet from Jim Wideman: #Orangetour Seattle here are my notes and worker app enjoy http://ow.ly/BIe80

The Orange Tour stops in cities around the country each fall. I find it a great resource for our children’s ministry, student ministry, family ministry and senior leadership teams. Click here for more information.

 


 

Orange Tour - Seattle Northshore Christian Church

 

Top 10 Quotes From The Willow Creek Global Leadership Summit

Here are the best leadership quotes from this year’s Global Leadership Summit, as they appeared in the #GLS14 Twitter feed.

TOP 10 LEADERSHIP QUOTES

#10. “Don’t get so addicted to vision that the people feel like equipment” – @BillHybels (via @wcagls)

#9. “Rather than focus on your critics, focus on the people who are impacted by your work.” – @tylerperry (via @wcagls)

# 8. “Conflict is the opportunity to strengthen a relationship” (via @ashleynchrist)

#7. “Leaders need to have a ruthless commitment to resolving relational conflict regardless of how bad it feels.” – @BillHybels (via @LeapsofJoy)

#6. “If you’re not interested in getting better, it’s time for you to stop leading.” – @PatrickLencioni (via @MJRueter57)

#5. “You can not let your budget dictate your faith.” – @PastorChoco (via RT @rhonda_dahlin)

#4. “Your peers determine how far you go. Be a giver. Be a friend.” – @JeffImmelt (via @VisionandGrowth)

#3. “The heart of trust is truth.” – Don Flow (via @wcagls)

#2. “When you don’t talk around the truth you have to talk through it. And truth accelerates trust.” – @josephgrenny (via @wcagls)

#1. “Leadership flows out of who we are, not just what we do.” – Don Flow (via @wcagls)

 

… AND A BONUS BAKER’S DOZEN LEADERSHIP QUOTES

“We like the final product, but we don’t like the process.” – @PastorChoco (via @wcagls)

“If you’re not going to do anything about the answer, then don’t ask.” – @PastorChoco (via @wcagls)

“I use the laughter as anesthesia to get to the stuff that really matters.” – @tylerperry (via @spagerealtor)

“Challenge without confidence creates fear; confidence without challenge creates complacency.” – Don Flow (via @wcagls)

“People won’t give their best unless their leader challenges them to do so.” – @BillHybels (via @wcagls)

“Candor is never the problem: People don’t get defensive over what you’re saying; they get defensive over why you’re saying it.” (via @mattvorhees)

“Prayer is good but it has to move us to do something.” – @PastorChoco (via @wcagls)

“The intent in crucial conversations is FAR greater than the content” – @josephgrenny (via @Chris_Mase)

“Every single decision you make as a leader has an effect on the spirit of those you lead ” – Bill Hybels (via @LetsGrowLeaders)

“Courage is an inner resolution to go forward despite obstacles.” – @PastorChoco (via @wcagls)

“Being an effective leader starts with how we negotiate with ourselves and get out of our own way.”  – @ericaarielfox (via @wcagls)

“The myth that we can’t tell the truth AND keep friends is at the heart of of our dysfunction.” -@JosephGrenny (via @ToddAdkins)

“People join organizations, they leave managers.” – @BillHybels (via @wcagls)

“The stakes are too high for us to die with a small vision.” – @LouieGiglio (via @wcagls)

 

WILLOW CREEK LEADERSHIP SUMMIT 2014 NOTES

From @lkoturner: Session notes on @JeffImmelt – the highlight so far for me of #GLS14: http://t.co/FFCCfTnueZ

From @Leadershipfreak: Lencioni’s thoughts on the 3 Most Dangerous Mistakes Leaders Make: http://t.co/OKbBuCAuHC

From @wcagls: @BillHybels shared “Hard-Fought Leadership Lessons” to open #GLS14 today: http://t.co/HsFMdtT0S6

From @StephenBraunius: My notes from Session 7b: One-on-One, Tyler Perry http://t.co/CD3IApWErI

From @StephenBraunius: Notes from session 2B #GLS14 “Positioning Your Organization for the Future” http://t.co/7UfCFey565

From @bradbridges: 15 Transformational Quotes from @PatrickLencioni Global Leadership Summit Speech || http://t.co/VcpNjVVHWC

From @bradbridges: 15 Essential Quotes from @BillHybels Global Leadership Summit Speech || http://t.co/r5zBu4iEiv

From @BrianKDodd: 18 Leadership Quotes From @JosephGrenny – http://t.co/54AJ673shA

From @BrianKDodd: 23 Leadership Quotes From @PatrickLencioni at  #GLS14 http://t.co/4qv73M07CU

From @BrianKDodd: 59 Leadership Quotes From @BillHybels at #GLS14 http://t.co/IkjX3mHsKT

From @BrianKDodd: 44 Leadership Quotes From @CarlyFiorina at #GLS14 http://t.co/WIiI0hEv7k

From @BrianKDodd: 18 Leadership Quotes From Bryan Loritts at #GLS14 http://t.co/7xA8UgmvOW

What are your favorite leadership quotes? Share them in a comment below.


 

Main Session Notes From The Orange Conference #OC14

Here is a great resource – Orange Conference notes! Each year 6,000 leaders gather in Atlanta for the national Orange Conference for church leaders. Cheryl Kneeland is a member of our team. She took excellent notes from the main sessions and several of the breakouts. She has graciously shared them with us for this guest post. Be sure to follow Cheryl on Twitter here.

MAIN SESSION #1

Virginia Ward – Changing, A Series Of Systematic Movements

We need to learn some things about change and see and understand each other. “I wanna be a youth leader who helps young people connect faith and life together.”

We are going to say YES to change!

 

Orange ConferenceBrooklyn Lindsey – Say YES to being uncomfortable.

Chaos is our love language (in middle school ministry).

Luke 11:46

Carry each others’ burdens. (Galatians) We can’t fix it all, we can’t move this right now, but we know that God can help and we can say YES to the uncomfortable right now that opens the door, shows them that we, the church cares.

Believe in a church that will sit with us in our doubt and tell us that we are here and love you.

> I’m not going to leave your side. I can tenaciously pursue unbelievers and can sit with them and carry their burdens with them.

> The yoke will never be too heavy for us because the burden is shared.

Say YES to the redeemable, uncomfortable person in front of you.

 

Reggie Joiner – Say YES to a God that is bigger than you think

When you go through life changes you lean into the people that you do ministry with, work with, do life with. I hope you will be surrounded with people that you can lean into; that will share with you, encourage you, be with you, whatever it is that you are going through right now beyond learning the skills, I hope you will find relationship with the people around you.

> KNOW- You can know God. Without a shadow of doubt.

> MOMENT- You can become a Christian in a moment. All it takes is a moment, to become a Christian, a new believer.

>BIBLE- The Bible is all true. It is a unique thing that God has given us so we can understand what it is he’s given us.

> TRUST- Trust leads to relationship.

> CHURCH- You should enjoy going to church.

> BELIEVE- Your beliefs matter. Understanding God’s principles.

> GOD- God is good. God is a god that genuinely cares.

Just because something is true doesn’t mean someone will hold on to it.

People walk away from church…It wasn’t because what we told them wasn’t true, it wasn’t because we didn’t teach them the gospel because we did,

65% of people that walk away, say they are not religious.

If we’re not careful, we can dismantle their faith or leave them with an impression that God is small.

“Sometimes in our zeal to fight for what is true we don’t fight for the tensions that actually connect those truths to what is real.”

The mercy of God doesn’t water down the truth, it amplifies it.

Tension doesn’t make truth less true, it makes it more real.

Somewhere along the way, we need to understand that we can somehow hold truths in our hands and honor them that will help us articulate and help others understand how powerful God is.

If you want to stretch the faith of a kid, capture their imagination, then look at truth in a different way. I want them to understand that YES you can know God but YES God is a mystery and somewhere along the way we have to hold both of those truths in our hand and yes you can know God and he can still be mystery and you don’t have to know everything about God.

YES you can understand what it means to have a relationship with God in a moment, but it will take you forever to know what that means.

Sometimes we hang kids on a foundation in faith that teaches them that if you have this faith, everything will be better. They will learn that somewhere in this process, being a Christian is harder and messier than we thought it would be.

Yes the Bible is all true and YES at the same time, everything true about life is not in the Bible.

One day they are going to face some problems that aren’t directly addressed in the Bible. The Bible is the final authority when it comes to many issues, there is other information that we need. The Bible is the way we can understand the story and the character of God.

Romans 1:20

We can learn from each other and we should be good stewards to learn.

> Why do you interview non-Christian leaders to learn how to lead? Because God made them.

> Why do you go to educators? God made them.

We don’t have an excuse not to learn everything we can possibly learn to be the best leaders we can possibly be. We can’t be afraid of learning everything we can learn…

Kids need to know that God is bigger than your Bible.

YES, trust leads to stronger faith and doubt leads to stronger faith.

> This is a huge issue; it’s important because the kids are going to grow up and start asking questions in middle school and beyond and the way you answer their questions will make a big difference.

> If you don’t allow kids in middle school to process their own doubt, they won’t own their own faith.

They should enjoy church and they should enjoy the physical world around us, what God has created.

> It’s okay to enjoy other things, other than church.

> Don’t raise your kids and tell them they won’t enjoy candy.

> Don’t get worried because you might like people that are not Christians, even better than some Christians, don’t worry if you like listening to Justin Timberlake.

> Don’t make kids choose between the world and church, for the same reason you watch a non-Christian run a football down a field.

YES to beliefs that matter and YES people matter more.

You know what you believe, but people matter more. The lost son is a good example.

If your beliefs cause you to treat people the wrong way, something is wrong with your beliefs.

YES God has an ideal, but YES God uses broken people.

> Some of your kids are going to try to live up to an ideal and they’re going to get broken along the way. But let’s go back through the scripture and look at how many broken people God used.

> When your kids feel they cannot measure up, they may give up. Give them the idea and the concept of Grace in the middle of their world.

YES God is good and YES you should do good.

> You should do good because he’s created you to do good.

> At the end of the day you and I do not have an excuse not to do good.

> If we’re not leading them into the trenches to do good then we’re not leading them to the truth.

If you don’t say yes to the tension kids could grow up to become “that” Christian.

God is good but you need to be responsible to do good in the world.

> Don’t get stuck when things don’t work out the way you want them to.

> Don’t be a jerk.

> Don’t be weird.

> Don’t be so threatened by questions & doubt that you don’t believe God is bigger than your questions.

> Trust that God is doing something bigger than you, bigger than your perspective.

The world is watching, your kids are listening and you need to make sure your giving them that AND this.

Take a moment and pause and worship a God that is bigger than us.

 

MAIN SESSION #2

Heather Zempel- Pastor of Discipleship at National Community Church
SAY YES to finding everyone a place where they know they belong

Programs don’t disciple people, people disciple people.

Are our programs just keeping people busy or are they leading to relationships? What if we made sure our structures discipled people? Need to create places for people to encourage relational discipleship.

It’s going to take hard work to disciple people.

Disciples are made…When they know that they matter to somebody, when they know that they have a place to belong.

Romans 16 list…the people that invested in you, walked beside you along the way. Who’s list is your name going to show up on? We have the ability to control who’s list we’re on.

We need to name their potential. Drawing out of them the person that Jesus created them to be. Our words matter so make them big. Call them up to a higher level. You have to be a little crazy to be a disciple maker…You have to see things in people that no one else sees.

Be an example to all of the believers (Paul said to Timothy).

We also need to say YES to braving their mess. SAY YES to the inevitable mess that they will either create or find themselves in. Mess transforms peoples’ lives. We say YES to mess beginning with diapers and drool and it doesn’t stay that clean. You’re dealing with the bad choices that they make. If we want to say YES to the next generation, we have to say YES to the mess. We’ve got to speak life into the messy places. We need to remind kids that their mess is not final fate, it may be the incubator for miracles in their life.

We say YES to inconvenience, yes to hard conversations and shifting our priorities.Tell them a story that is larger than their own. We need to find ways to make kids experience grace that is unmistakable. It’s one thing to give kids a list of statements and say believe it or give them a list of rules and say follow it…We’re not going to win the next generation by making statements at them.

It’s not rules to live by but a calling to live for.

Who are we leaving in our wake? Who’s going to be on these kids Romans 16 list? We can make sure that they experience grace in the fullness of truth and the fullness of truth in the experience of grace. We’ve got to tell the story over and over again.

We cannot let Jesus’ last command become our least concern.

Invite them into a story that’s bigger than our own.

 

Mark Batterson, Lead Pastor at National Community Church
SAY YES to re-imagining what you do…

If you want to repeat history, do it the way it’s always been done. If you want to make history, do it a new way. Re-imagine the way you do things…

Acts 10 “He prayed to God regularly”

If you pray to God regularly, irregular things will happen regularly.

Orange, go home. Lock yourself in your room and draw a circle, get inside the circle and pray that God will bring a revival in that circle.

You can have Holy confidence because you know that God goes before you and you know that He can change anything and everything.

One day…you are one prayer away from a totally different life. Prayer is the difference between letting things happen and making things happen.

We underestimate what God can do in one day. God can accomplish more in one day than we can accomplish in a lifetime.

God’s revealing to us, giving us a vision from Him. Ask…What is your agenda (God) for me?

Often times I want God to reveal the second step, before I take the first step..don’t wait until you have the whole plan. You wouldn’t be in the place where God wants you to be.

Don’t let your budget determine your vision, let your vision determine your budget.

God is calling Peter to step out of the universe that he knows. It’s a huge step of faith to go where you’ve never been or do what you’ve never done. Sometimes re-imaging is as simple as changing the way you do something small, like switching translations of your Bible. (Get a different perspective).

Change of place plus change of pace equals re-imagining.

When and where do you pray? You should be able to answer this. If you can’t answer when and where you pray, you need to rethink your prayer time.

Matthew 18:18

Prayer is a spiritual contract. For the will of God.

Where is it that you’ve experienced God’s miracles? Sometimes we have to go back to that place to re-imagine.

“Surely not Lord” Peter had obeyed laws his entire life, he could hardly re-imagine another scenario. How many surely not Lord moments do we have?

Sometimes God shows up, sometimes God shows off.

When you get into an argument with God, if you win that argument you loose. If you loose that argument, you win. Is there an argument you need to loose?

Sometimes you have to risk your reputation to see God’s kingdom advance. Faith is willingness to look foolish. (Noah building an ark, Sarah preparing for a baby, wise men bringing gold, frankincense and myrrh, peter walked on water, etc.)

Peter walked through the door…This is the biggest moment in the history of the church. The moment that Peter entered the threshold, whosoever…we wouldn’t be here if Peter had not risked his reputation and re-imagined what he could do.

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MAIN SESSION #3 – When you SAY YES, you say YES to drama!

Ben Crawshaw & Jon Acuff

You’re a student leader and you’re in the middle of this and it’s messy; just start listening to people. You’ll learn a lot about people and see them as a person and not a problem.

Andy Stanley and Reggie Joiner

We need to live in the tension of theology and ministry…

Distinguish between theology/ministry:

> Jesus never allowed theology to get in the way of ministry. Religion has it’s place, but religion is second place, it should never be first (people are first).

> As a team you need to wrestle with what does this look like. Jesus really did deliver us the great commandment. Ministry, putting others first, relationships.

> Love God, Love your neighbor: All the law and the prophets hang on this. We need to keep coming at it from the position of hanging on Love God and Love your neighbor.

> When in doubt, what does love require of me?

What would happen if the world around us saw us treat each other with grace?

If we can learn to SAY YES to the messiness, to walking alongside people when they are struggling; the church will thrive.

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SESSION #4

Kara Powell and Reggie Joiner

Say YES to not always having the answer.

70% of youth group kids who are graduating have doubts. When young people have the opportunity to express and explore their doubt and questions, they typically have a stronger faith.

It’s not doubt that is toxic, it’s unexpressed doubt that is toxic (or damaging).

When kids or teens ask tough questions, how do we respond?

> I don’t know, but…

Don’t just give the “Christian” answer of just trust God. Many people walk away at that point and don’t come back to church, to faith.

Jesus is bigger than our biggest questions. He can handle our questions and our kids’ questions.

 

Perry Noble – Say YES to not having it all together

There are many students that struggle with anxiety and pressure…for some they are sensitive to body image. (Many adults are too).

Many people have a season of life when they struggle with fear and anxiety (other struggles can be depression, suicidal thoughts, etc.):

> Don’t say “Do more, work harder.” They feel caught in the situation and they can’t get out.

We as leaders need to create an environment where it is okay to not be okay, but it is not okay to stay that way.

James 5:14 “Is anyone among you sick? If any one of you are sick, we need to call the elders and pray over them.”

> We often just think of the typical sicknesses like a cold, flu, allergies, cancer, Alzheimer’s, etc.

> Worry leads to anxiety, anxiety leads to depression, depression leads to suicidal thoughts.

> These four things (worry, anxiety, depression & suicidal thoughts) are just as real sicknesses and we need to help each other.

> A sickness is anything that is not God’s best for you.

> Physically sick, emotionally sick, mentally sick, etc.

> I didn’t know that it was okay to not be okay as a leader. We need to create and model that type of environment…DO NOT pretend that everything is always okay.

> The first step is admitting that you are sick, that there is something going on that you need help with.

Churches often aren’t passionate about relationships and creating a safe place to be sick, they are a place to try to look perfect.

We cannot be the church that tells someone that they are struggling or messed up so they can’t come back.

For many churches…It’s okay to not be okay, but we have to pretend that we’re perfect. What does that look like to God?

You go to hell because you don’t know Jesus, you don’t go to hell because you commit suicide.

Many leaders in the Bible struggled (Jonah, Noah, Moses, David, etc.)

Godly people get stressed and anxious, and overwhelmed. Those people are some of the most spiritual people on the planet, but they are dealing with some real issues, some big things.

“…elders pray with them and anoint them with oil…”

Is it a sin or is it wrong for a Christian to take anti-depressants? No, don’t say you just need to depend on Jesus. You wouldn’t show up to tell someone having a heart-attack and turning blue that they just need to read their Bible more and pray more.

There is a chemical imbalance in the brain and it is okay to use a medication to help balance your body.

Most of the Bible heroes could not have worked at our churches. (Noah, David, Peter, even Jesus!)

If we’ve created environments in our churches where Jesus couldn’t be employed that’s not okay.

“…prayer will make the sick person well…The Lord will raise them up…”

The healing process begins and you can step out of darkness by helping us to see our sin issues and work through them. He never wastes a tragedy or a problem. It is a refining process, but there is a key to the environment we must create for our churches, our students, our kids…

vs. 16 “…therefore confess your sins to each other and pray with each other…”

I want something powerful and effective to happen in my spiritual life. You have to tell someone what’s going on, then you can be healed. You may not have told someone because you’re scared. It’s not easy to open up and tell someone else. But when you do, it makes a big difference.

God doesn’t necessarily heal you in the moment that you tell someone, but He starts the process. You have to model that environment where you tell someone and it’s really okay to not be okay, but it’s just not okay to stay that way.

The healing process begins as we talk about it out loud. Jesus said in His Word that talking about it heals.

Have the courage to be transparent, so that we can be trustworthy as leaders.

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MAIN SESSION #5

Doug Fields: SAY YES to helping marriages win

Bait & Switch- Is a practice in which the advertiser advertises one thing and then switches the deal when you arrive for something of their choice. Don’t do a bait & switch.

How do I help kids? Know Jesus? Be healthier?

I can’t adequately care for kids if I don’t care for their family, more specifically I need to care for their parent’s marriage.

We have to extend our definition of family ministry to include the family’s marriage.

When a marriage is bad, everything is bad. If you’re mad, you’re mad at everything. If you don’t have a healthy marriage, you don’t have a vibrant red in your family, your home. And that makes it hard to have a healthy Orange color when partnering with the church.

When you say YES to the next generation, you say YES to helping marriages win.

Many of our church’s marriage strategies are like putting a band-aid on a hemorrhage. It’s not enough to do a once a year conference or give couples a book or do a short sermon series on it. We would never use this approach for students and children. You wouldn’t teach them one thing and expect them to remember it and hold onto it for a whole year.

What if the people in this room came up with a plan to help the marriages in your church, a marriage strategy? What would that look like to do this at your church? We need to have these conversations.

If you’re about kids, you’ve got to be about those kids’ parents’ marriages.

Maybe it’s time to cut some things out and focus on the families, the marriages. The families, our families would be healthier.

Those of us that care the most about kids, need to take the lead on caring the most about marriages.

Children of divorced parents are more than five times more likely to walk away from the church.

1. Focus on your own marriage. Whether you’re married or not, you & I can be an advocate for marriage. Your audience, the kids are watching you. Your marriage is more important than your ministry. You marriage may be more important to your church than your ministry.

2. Teach your kids about marriage. We need to talk about marriage, more than just the sex talk or a purity message. Hebrews 13:4 We are good at teaching the second part of this verse, but we don’t do a good job teaching that marriage should be honored by all.

3. Recruit a mentor couple to be around your ministry. Be around the kids, other leaders. Help us think how we could help other marriages in our church. There are people that have something to offer at your church and they are just waiting to be asked to help.

4. Help couples date. Marriages are healthier when the parents get to date. Have teens help with date nights at church. Challenge the teens to serve and understand that they are helping marriages. Offer childcare. Do a date night for couples with children with special needs. We just need to hand couple’s footballs in our world; give them date night ideas. Resource: marriedpeople.org

5. Up-sell. Just like at a fast food restaurant. Connect a marriage strategy to your family strategy. Book: Married People, How to Build Marriages that Last (authors: Ted Lowe and Doug Fields). We’re looking for some courageous earlier adopters, that can help us figure this out in the trenches, getting in on phase one. We are on the ground floor of connecting marriages and children.

When you say YES to the next generation, you say YES to helping marriages win!

You came here thinking that you’re part of children’s ministry or students ministry, I want you to leave knowing you’re in marriage ministry too.

Let’s make it happen to help make marriages a priority.

 

Jeff Henderson: Say YES to people who say no to church

What you do is incredibly significant! What you are doing in family ministry is life-changing.

You change the world by falling in love with Jesus and letting him lead your ministry.

There is something in common with all of us here, this community that’s the same with your community.

Never tell God never, he plays close attention.

For some of you…You’re wow, but you’re not how. (Not typically good at figuring out the how).

I want you to know that God loves you and you may not believe all of these things that we’re reading, but I believe that God loves you unconditionally. It’s good news.

You may have said no to Jesus, but Jesus has said YES to you.

In 11 years pastoring, here’s the group of people we need to talk about. We need to say YES to those who have said no to what you & I believe, say YES to those that said no to the church and say YES to those that said no to Jesus.

We’ve got to get our hearts around this as it relates to the church.

You will never experience what the church can do for you, until you experience what the church can do through you.

Acts 17:22-23

We say YES by talking less. We talk too much.

> Sit down with the staff and listen. As she began to listen, the staff began to think that she really cared about them. Listening builds trust.

> Many reasons that people say no to the church is that we’ve just talked and preached at them and not listened to them.

> Asked people who do not go to church; How interested would you be in hanging out with a church pastor or staff member? 84% of unchurched 18-34 year-olds said they are not interested.

> They are more likely to attend church if it feels like a community.

> What would it look like if you could listen to your community?

> Own a restaurant, know the staff, the waiters, and talk to them. (You don’t have to literally be the restaurant owner, just get to know the people there, be a regular).

> How can we go on a listening tour? Say YES by talking less and listening more.

Say YES in a common unifying language.

> We talk church lingo too often and it confuses people. We want them to understand what we have for them. What is our promise to our community? And what are we saying in a way that they can understand?

> The reason so many people have said no to the church, is because they don’t understand us.
What do we want to be known for?

How can we say YES to those that said no?

Is there a phrase or language that we can communicate consistently that they would understand?

We are trying to get this language out to the community. FOR is a great word.

#FORGWINETT

Look for events in the county that need help. We just want to let the community know that we are for them. More people know more of what the church is against than what they’re for…make sure they know what it’s for.

When people have said no to the church, we want them to know that Jesus has still said YES to them.

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MAIN SESSION #6

Derwin Gray, Pastor at Transformation Church: Say YES to letting God rewrite your story

Leaders see things in other people, that which they don’t see in themselves…That who they are today, is not who they will be tomorrow.

Say YES to the next generation, to finding YOUR Story in HIS Story.

God has a story and he’s writing you into the story.

Galatians 2:20

We must be learning His story so we can understand it.

Say YES to co-crucifixion with Christ.

Why are we not using teenagers, and involving teenagers? They are not the church of tomorrow, they are the church of today.

They don’t have volunteers (you’re heart doesn’t volunteer to beat), they have servant leaders and EVERYONE 6th grade and older is a servant leader, serving somewhere in the church.

How do we say YES to the next generation so that they can have their story rewritten?

Say YES to receiving God’s love in Jesus.

Do they know that you LOVE Jesus? When it’s all said and done, they don’t remember the games, they remember JESUS.

On Sunday morning do you spend more time in your Bible or in your closest choosing what to wear?

Do our students know they’re loved? We want a generation that as they disembark in this world, they are intoxicated with Jesus.

Say YES to receiving significance in Jesus.

We want our students to say YES and do phenomenal things but we want them to find their ultimate significance in Jesus.

Jesus is my significance. We want our next generation to be achievers for Jesus’ glory.

Say YES to receiving a new identity in Christ.

We all have a past, but our identity is defined by Jesus Christ. Your past is no longer holding you in bondage. We have a new identity and a new power. Loose the victim label and accept Jesus’ identity for you.

Dream, imagine what our glorious God can do and have a generation of students that can imagine what Jesus can do and rest their identity in him.

Jesus says, That’s why I choose you, because you can’t. Jesus can.

 

Jon Acuff: Say YES to future, Say YES to being afraid

Courage is fun to watch other people have. But it’s not always fun to try to have yourself.

Bravery feels like wanting to cry, throw up, not sleeping very well…

Transition moments like the end of an event; you get so full of hope, but then fear is waiting in the car, “I’m not enough”, “other churches are cooler,” etc.

When you say YES to being afraid…

God tells us you don’t have to have it all figured out. There is a pressure to have your whole life figured out and feel like everyone else does except you.

> The closer you get to God, the more you realize I don’t know but I do know who does.

> We need to be able to say I don’t know and that’s okay.

> God takes you in places you can’t plan, he surprises us in ways we can’t imagine.

> Anyone who is successful and tells you they knew where they were going is lying. Moses had to move first before he was spoken to.

> You were created for more than just errands.

God knew you were going to be afraid.

> The most common phrase in the Bible is “Do not be afraid.”

> There are so many references to fear.

> Matthew 6:26

> What a gift it is that God choose a bird. We all see birds. There are thousands of them.

> God gave us something that we can look to regularly.

Sometimes we pray for the wrong things.

> You don’t always win and sometimes we are going to loose. Sometimes we will fail.

> When you face fear and you come up with all the options, where is Jesus in that?

> Why is he not one of your options?

> You perform and perform and perform and one day you wake up and you dread Christmas, or you say you can breathe again once you get through Easter. Is that why it was created?

> God doesn’t need us to add our talents to complete Him, he invites us into his story to part of it because He loves you not because He needs you to complete Him. He’s already complete.

God will never be handcuffed by the failures of your ministry or the successes of your ministry.

Sometimes you meet people and feel like you’re the only one with fear. We all have fears!

He loves us too much to take away our fears. Sometimes we pray for God to take away our fears…but, Why would He close the one door you’re walking through right now?

Acts 4:29

They don’t say consider their threats and remove them or get rid of them. They pray to have more boldness.

We need to stop praying for less fear and pray for more boldness. Pray for better legs that run faster to the one that is bigger than our fears.

God has a plan for you, but we don’t know it; that’s the tension and we have to live with it.

Don’t see fear as failure, see it as a doorway to a God that wants to have a relationship with you.

— BONUS NOTES —

BREAKOUT SESSIONS

Pre-conference Session #1

Orange ConferenceStephen “Doc” Hunsley, M.D. Special Needs Ministry (SOAR) at Grace Church in Overland Park, Kansas

Topic- Training Volunteers to Include Children and Students with Autism

Don’t get down on the trials in life, because God is doing something!

Every individual is different, no one has the same exact needs.

Approx. 90% of children and families with special needs family members do not attend church. Most of them have either tried a church and didn’t feel welcome (fear of acceptance and the anxiety of volunteers) or got asked to leave a church.

75% of Jesus’ miracles in the Bible were performed on people with special needs.

We need to embrace special needs individuals in our churches, in our church family.

Most children with autism or other special needs, you won’t know right away.

The first impressions team and parking attendants need training to work with families with children with autism as well. They can help a family with a child that’s struggling to get out of the car or into the building and make the family feel loved and welcome.

Sensory Integration: Agitated Student- (Student refusing to sit down)

> Get down on the child’s level…DO NOT talk above them or down to them. It will elevate their stress.

> Stay calm and talk them through what is going on and exactly what is expected. Use First-Then language. Example: First we’re going to sit down, then we’re going to have snack.

> Verbal child- Have them repeat the First-Then statement back to you.

> Get some mouse pads (solid colors, just one or two colors total). You can have the child pick which color they want to sit on and you enable them to be a part of the plan and choose something for themselves. Works great with regular attending kids. (Builds routine)

Transitioning Behaviors: Overstimulated Student- (Recurring pattern with a regular child)

> Start with reminders (Sally 5 minutes until we’re going to go inside, Sally 3 minutes until we go inside, 1 more minute Sally)

> Try bringing them in several minutes before the class, walk them over to the drinking fountain and use the First-Then language. Helps them cool down.

Sensory Integration – Large Group Challenge (worship time)

> Try to figure out what the problem is. Too loud, new or strong smell, lights, too crowded, etc.

> Move them to another location in the room to see if it helps them. If it’s Miss Sally’s new perfume, moving to another spot in the room helps a lot.

> Sensory toys- create a small tub for each room.

> Deep massage or simple squeeze- helps them feel safe and they “melt”

> Have them stand by a window where they can look out and stand up, but still participate in the worship.

> Live Stream worship (either kids or adults from main service) in another room where you can control the sound and lights better.

Sensory Integration – Objects in Mouth

> Could be that the child just needs movement. Sometimes sitting in the chair is painful.

> Use a sensory box (full of little toys-squeeze toys, Rubik’s cube, gel wands, glitter wands)

> Get some larger items that can’t go in the mouth- large vibrators like the snake that goes around the neck tend to work well.

> If you do snacks in your room, have the child come over with you to get a small snack.

> Ask a simple question- Sally what goes in your mouth? It’s a simple reminder to them bc they often don’t even know they are doing it.

> Ask the parents what they do at home (many probably have chew toys) and ask them to bring one and label it in a zip-loc bag for them.

Behavior Integration – Meltdown (full kicking, screaming, hitting, biting- any ages)

> Create distance between the individual and the rest of the kids. It is often easier to remove an entire class (go on a bathroom break, outside, etc.) than removing the child).

> YOU may be the trigger, so be aware of that.

> If they are in danger of hurting themselves, get another adult to help you so you are NOT alone.

> Last resort, call the parents.

> Keep yourself at a safe distance, talk calm, slow, help bring their stress down.

> Reinforce with things like, hey Johnny your parents are coming soon.

> Turn the lights off, or dim them to get the stimuli down. Turn off the music and other distractions and stimulus.

> Get a weighted blanket. Ask someone to make one (filled with rice, beans, beads, etc). Typically weighs about 15 pounds.

> Lay the blanket on top of the child and let them calm down.

> Physical restraint is a last resort and needs to be a trained staff member and ONLY if the child is in physical danger of hurting themselves or others.

Behavior Intervention – Runner

> They can get through any lock, any gate, they’re fast.

> Go after them; however, don’t make it a game of chase. Stand still or walk toward them.

> Be careful not to turn it into a game.

> Figure out the trigger (are they escaping a task, want attention, bored and want to do something else).

> Need a code word for staff team and security at church. Call out “code green” and everyone covers all the doors to make sure they don’t leave the building.

>They also like to hide, so have your extra volunteers help look for them.

> They will hide in small dark places, especially when they are on the verge of sensory overload.

> During transitions, let them know ahead of time using First-Then statements.

> Hold their hand to walk to the next place.

> Remind them of the reinforcement system they have, so they know that they will get something positive when they are showing Christ-like behavior, or what they are suposed to be doing.

Behavior Intervention – Parent Conversation (At this point you’re tired, frustrated)
> Stay positive, talk about what their child did well that day.

> Don’t tell them they are a bad parent or a horrible parent.

> Special Needs parents are bombarded all the time, everywhere with the negative and all the things they are doing wrong (because people don’t understand that their child has special needs).

> Church needs to be a place of refuge, where the parents know their child with special needs is being loved on.

> Have the ministry director or pastor help you with the conversation

> Evaluate if the negative is something they really need to know about.

> They are constantly worn out, dealing with it everyday.

> Don’t do it in the middle of the hallway. Be respectful and private.

> Sandwich- Positive, Negative, Positive

> Do not place emotion in it (yours or assume the child’s), just state the facts of the negative.

> Pray through it and see if you really need to do it.

Language- Peer Interaction

> Kids will direct their questions and interactions to the adults in the room.

> Model to the child how to interact with the non-verbal child.

> Include the special needs child in the interaction, don’t just talk about them.

> Encourage and promote any interaction socially with their peers.

> Parents want to see their children included.

Language – Unengaged Student

> Be a model, show them the actions you want them to do.

> Encourage volunteers to get involved.

> Kids with autism, can be highly stimulated and on the verge of sensory overload, so even when they don’t appear to be involved (may just sit and watch quietly), that’s okay. That may be all they can do.

> Let them walk in the back of the room with a toy, it let’s them experience what you’re doing in their own way.

> Ask them questions about what you were teaching. They may repeat the whole story and beyond. Some kids will repeat several weeks or even months of stories to you.

> Have the same expectations, do not sell them short. Share the gospel with them and realize they can get it.

> Don’t give up on them.

> Observe the behavior. Sometimes it’s not sensory overload, it’s more of a choice action. Talk with them, why don’t you help with the motions today.

> Volunteers are allowed to touch the children and the child knows the word No.

> Help them stand up. Put your hand over their arms and help them do the motions. They frequently think it’s fun.

> If it doesn’t work well, take a step back and allow them to sit on the floor pr engage in worship in their own individual way.

50% of children with autism have seizures.

> First, stop and look at the time. The length of the seizure makes a HUGE difference. 5 minutes or more is an emergency!

> Ensure their safety, move them away from the wall, toys, etc.

> DO NOT put anything in their mouth including a bite block

> Call for help (another adult).

> If it’s a known seizure child, you may not need to call the parents, but you need that plan in place and agreed upon first.

> Always call immediately if it’s the first time they had a seizure or a new child

> Have two people there one on each side, to help them once they stop and are regaining balance

> You may need to call 911

Charlotte’s Web – Marijuana for children with seizures

> As a pediatrician absolutely not something I recommend.

> As a parent, if my child was having 100-1000 seizures a day, I would do it in a heartbeat to help with the quality of life.

> As a church, no where in the Bible is there something that says you are not allowed to do charlotet’s web. Some churches say no and have asked families to leave the church because they are doing it.

> No church should be making the stand to tell the parent how to parent. Take the high road. The family needs you to come alongside them, they need spiritual encouragement, love them.

It is helpful to interview your new special needs families and create a plan for their child to do what’s best for them and to be able to love the child and help the child.

For the parent in denial that their child is autistic; do not come into the conversation saying they have autism, just talk about how you’ve noticed that Jacob needs a little extra help in the class and we would love to get Jacob a buddy to help him have a better time in class, and keep up with the activities. You are just offering a little extra help, not accusing them of doing anything. You may ask if they have an IEP at school and ask about it.

Training for Physical Restraints (CPI). Check to see what training is offered locally and get your staff trained.

Buddy System- Majority of special needs students do not need a buddy. Try to keep them mainstreamed. Youngest buddy is 8 years old, but he’s one of the best ones. It’s more about training and language use then the age of the child. Encourage youth and adults to be apart of it. Tap into your middle school and high school students. Families may also want to serve together and this is a great opportunity.

Pre-conference Session #2 – How to Reach Families in Your Local Elementary School with Dan Scott (Orange) and Dan Kubish (New Spring Church in Wichita, KS)

There are lots of kids that will never walk in the doors of your church, and they need help, they need to see God’s love in action.

School in General:
> 50.1 million kids will attend school in US this year
> Average size is 20-25 kids & 1 teacher in a classroom
> 160,000 kids will miss school because of bullying
> 71% of kids report that bullying is a problem.
> 1 out of 5 kids will drop out before graduation

Americans are not happy with our schools.

Barna’s Schools in Crisis Survey
> 76% of Americans think greater family and parental involvement will improve lower-performing schools

> 70% high quality teachers will improve lower-performing schools

> 35% more involvement from faith communities will improve lower-performing schools

> Who is responsible? Primary resource for education 80% parents

We can help, but the church in general isn’t too sure. We can…

> Encourage teachers

> Help with fund raising

> Volunteer at local schools

> Help promote reform

Instead of helping, many in the church flee.

There is so much potential- our kids can be the light in their public schools, in the darkness.

There are 3 big influences in the life of a child:

> Church (40 hours a year)

> Home (3000 hours with family at home)

> School (1600 hours a year)

What would happen if we leverage the influence at the schools as well??

> That’s a lot of hours you can impact on top of your 40 in the life of a child over the year.

3 is greater than 1 plus 1 plus 1.

We need to work together, get on the same page with the schools.

75% of kids in your community will never benefit from what you do inside the church because they will never come to you. If you want to reach those kids, you have to go to them. Orange is about widening the circle, reaching out.

 

Dan Scott interviewed Dan Kubish (thebigideaexperience.com)
Core Central Values- Pathway to Public Schools

Where to start…4 simple steps

Adopt one school. Schools are looking for it. In Kansas schools are required to have a virtue based curriculum.

> Set up a time to meet with the school.

> They started with a 40 minute program to do for the school.

> They didn’t cross the line, didn’t say Jesus or get out their Bibles, but they still taught the virtue.

> They started getting referrals from other schools

> Need to meet with people on staff. Talk to the people in charge of curriculum, typically a counselor. Probably don’t want to go through the PTA. Directly to the people that make the decisions.

> Ask to do an assembly for the school

> It’s great to have a teacher invite you to the school, but not necessary.

Actually meet at the school, on their turf, in their time frame, with their rules

> Hang out and talk and see how you can get on the same page.

> Meet with them, Big Idea coming to your school (wear the same shirts to make yourselves identifiable).

> Janitor may not be too happy, so bring help to clean and set-up, tear down.

> Safety issue to have people on campus, so make sure you follow their policies. Go over the rules and make sure you tell them what your signal is to keep the crowd quiet. Have fun, but keep it organized. Be respectful, don’t come in like you know it all. Humility is key!

Be Positive – Point out good things about the school

Ask how you can help

> Leave your agenda behind

> Serve with humility

> Exceed expectations

Another idea is to do a carnival for them or something of that nature. We are here to assist the school.

In Kansas, May 1st is the Stop Bullying March, the kids all wear a shirt and participate in activities that day. They created a short 15 minute video for them to get the kids pumped up about participating and wearing their shirts.

New Spring church has a truck and tailor and they bring and set-up all their own equipment. They go to 71 different schools.

They also put up a billboard for Humility on the major highway through the city.

It will be the easiest money you raise as a church, people will step up to the plate. They told people what they’re doing and they donated the money to put up the digital billboards on the main freeway (I35). A radio station donated a short amount of time to them as well, where they just a do a 30 second blurb on what the big idea is (Humility, use the virtue)

There is a tab on the 252 website for the school XP and it can be a start for you.

Free to the schools, Dan K. buys most of their stuff from Core Essentials.

Most schools can’t afford assemblies but they are looking for them. Offer your program to schools as a free assembly.

You must have excellence, needs to be a program that both the kids and teachers love.

You can teach God’s truth to the kids and tell them Bible stories by changing names (for the Good Samaritan they used football team names).

They are able to build relationships with the school and he is able to go now when they call him to talk to a student when they’re going through something hard.

Encourage kids and administration.

They have a different website, name and mailing address away from the church. It keeps the schools open to partnering with them.

Most pastors will ask what will it do for the church. We would still do it even if no one started coming to the church because of it, but over 80% of the teachers and kids from those schools come to their church now. Teachers have figured out that if you love the kids so much that you come to us and build relationships and love on the kids than what amazing things are you doing at your church.

The teachers see the kids more than you do at church.

Tell the schools, we’d love to provide the core essential curriculum for you. It’s a great way in. Costs about $199 a month or so. It’ll be worth it for you to reach your community.

How do you go to 71 schools, 5 services on the weekend, and have 13 staff members? Do 4 shows at schools a day. DO NOT WRITE YOUR OWN CURRICULUM. Don’t waste your time. Work 40 hours a week.

Talk with your parents, talk with teachers in your church. Start small.

What are some ways to fund the program if your church does not have the funding?
You can talk to community leaders because it’s community-based.
Businesses (& business leaders) in the community like to help with things that help the community. There are people in your church that this is their passion…there are people already volunteering in schools and this may be part of their dream. They may volunteer to help you.

For Core Essential Values there is a backlog to go get at a later time if your school is doing a different value or virtue that month; however, there is stuff specific to the time of year or month like December.

You can do it with 3 people at the minimum.

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PRE-CONFERENCE SESSION #4

FX Interactive with Adam Duckworth in Fort Launderdale:
@adam_duckworth

Context for why we do what we do related to Family experience.
What is Orange? Two combined influences make a greater impact than just two influences. Church and Family…

Light in a broken world that should shine the light brighter so that everyone can see it.
Red and Yellow together make Orange.

FX is that coming to life, represented. Family and church should meet and learn about the same things together.

5 Principles to the orange strategy:

> Integrate Strategy: Align church leaders and parents to lead with the same end in mind.

> Redefine the Message: Craft core truths into engaging, relevant and memorable experiences.

> Reactivate the Family: Enlist parents to act as partners in the spiritual formation of their own children.

> Elevate Community: Connect everyone to a caring leader and a consistent group of peers

> Leverage Influence: Create consistent opportunities for students to experience personal ministry.

Populate the stage with middle school students and high school students: they engage in personal ministry beyond high school. It helps them stay in the church once they leave the community.

FX: A shared experience for families designed to engage parents as partners with a strategy to shape the character and faith of their children.

The life apps help shape kids, shape their faith, shape their future, shape their families. It’s a shared experience.

Why an FX? By creating an FX you help “reactivate the family” in your community.

> Communities are crumbling

> Families are different today, they are changing.

> Our doors are always open because we want to help your family take the next step toward Jesus.

Spiritual Leaders: Spiritual leadership has no clear definition.

There are people that are attempting to engage with us that may have no experience in a church, no experience with faith. They don’t know what that means.

It should be our goal in family experience to encourage people to take steps.

It should never be our goal to engage parents to do everything but to do something more.

Levels of Partnership:

> Aware: who understand they have a responsibility

> Involved: who are active and busy

> Invested: who are devoted in their participation

> Engaged: who are intentional about doing something

It’s very rare that someone is going to become engaged overnight, but we help them take little steps.

FX Priorities:

> Family Centered: Creates a consistent, shared experience for parents and kids

> Kid Focused: Targets the everyday issues in a kid’s everyday world

> Value Driven: Emphasizes specific life apps that allow kids to develop faith and character

> Creatively Wired: Uses innovative and creative tools to communicate timeless truths

> User Friendly: Creates a non-threatening environment for families to invite friends to

> Volunteer Fueled: Build on teams of volunteers

When you get like-minded people around the table implementing the same vision it will change your community. Volunteers are awesome.

About 13 elements in a typical FX

FX can be done with as few as 3 people, but it’s better (& easier) to have more people.

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THURSDAY BREAKOUT SESSION A

Brooklyn Lindsey, brooklynlindsey.com
Leading through Crisis, Tragedy & Trauma (Students)

Announcement: XP team has an emergency kit that you can use. Includes what to say and do programming wise after an emergency in your community.

You are not alone, it’s going to take a lot of people and a lot of love and you are not alone.

Small crisis: Play Finger Ninja- hands up, put your right pointer finger in the palm of the person next to you and on the count of 3 trap one side and escape the other side.

Quote: Ann Lamount says “Lighthouses don’t go all around an island looking for boats to save they just stand still and shine their light.”

Lighthouses are stable and strong, & they are drawing in nature, they draw ppl in.

Stay strong and be who you are in Him. That identity in Christ enables you to do what you need to do to help others.

We may not be the best at handling certain situations, but we will be the best at being ourselves and we will have what it takes.

Ldrs are often the first responders, usually starts with a conversation. You have this knowledge that you’re going to call on the phone or have a face to face conversation.

> Difficult, hard, don’t always have the answers. At the end of the day, our job is to respond.

> Your genuine and thoughtful response will tell the hurting that you care.

> Show up, respond, don’t be afraid of that.

SAY THIS NOT THAT:

As you begin to have the conversations:

> Focus on listening

> Focus on Feeling (Let them voice their emotions)

> Focus on Remembering (Tell me about a good memory, why do you love someone so much) – Journal, talk about your memories

Say This:

> I’m so sorry for your loss

> I hate that you’re going through this

> I know this is really hard

> I know that this is really difficult

> Tell me a story about this person

> We’re going to walk through this together

Book: Youth Leaders Guide to Crisis (good appendix of adjectives in the back of the book). Sometimes our simple words don’t express the depth or the breadth of their feelings. You can have a student circle some of the words that they’re feeling.

If you can’t go with them together, then find somebody that can. (Small group leaders are great)

DO NOT Say This:

> Avoid Cliches

> Avoid Answers (we don’t have all the answers)

> Avoid Timelines

Hurtful:

> Everything happens for a reason

> How are you?

> You’ll get over this

> God just needed another angel

> At least you have your Dad/Friends/etc.

> Don’t cry

It’s good to grieve and let people grieve even when it’s hard.

There are times that you go through crisis that you will have to deal with it in the future, because someone forgot it or blocked it. (Crisis can come out at any time).

Crisis lives on and it can be the incubator for miracles. (Heather said this in main session this morning).

Sometimes people look at the church and they just want to see or hear something that says come home. The world is just saying “Say Something” to me, let me know you care and love me. Be open and receptive.

People in your life need to be filling you up, speaking words of truth into you. You need to be full so you can say YES to being the lighthouse

Crisis foreshadows the future, they are imaging their faith in the future through you. God wants you to help carry other people’s burdens.

What is Crisis:

> A crisis is a time of intense difficulty, trouble, or danger

> A period of disequilibrium that overpowers a person’s homeostatic mechanisms (therapeutic definition)

> A crisis throws people off balance

> It can be difficult to predict

> It can be brought on by anything

> It can be something that effects someone in one stage of their life and not in another

Who determines a crisis? The person going through it.

When to respond when and how:

Acute (pointed, immediate): (Needs immediate attention from you or someone else, like going to the hospital). Suicide attempt, abuses, runaway, assault, sudden loss, etc.

Chronic (enduring, reoccurring, persistent): (Sometimes this will quickly escalate to Acute and it is not your fault) Cutting, compulsive behaviors, ADHD, depression, etc. Response can be slower.

Adjustment (stressful on relationships, annoying but they are usually just transitioning): Lying, sibling born, defiance, family remarriage, etc. Sometimes it helps to tell someone to breathe. Can be fun, but can also be awful. Tell them you’ll be with them through this.

Lighthouses don’t go running around an island trying to save people.

Daniel 12:3

Say YES to be the first responder and being helped by the first responders.

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HELPFUL LINKS:

Orange Conference 2014 Notes – From Nick Blevins

#OC14 Orange Conference Notes – From Jim Wideman

Orange Conference 2014 Notes – From Brian Dodd

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Key Takeaways from “Lynchpin” by Seth Godin

Linchpin by Seth Godin Like a fast food restaurant, some books give you pithy leadership advice . . . quick and satisfying hits without much effort on your part.

Lynchpin isn’t one of those books.

In it, Seth Godin pulls out the white tablecloths and fine china. He serves a seven course meal of ideas to savor slowly.

I spent weeks carefully reading and processing this book. This is a good thing for leaders to do from time to time. Our best opportunities to develop happen when we allow ourselves the space to reflect and slowly ingest what ideas we take in.

Linchpin by Seth GodinHere are some key takeaways from Seth Godin’s Linchpin:

> Prior to the Industrial Revolution, gifted artisans made things. The more unique and individual the work, the more valuable it was.

> The Industrial Revolution made producing homogenous products faster and cheaper.

> Assembly lines and factories offered workers a deal: give up your unique skills and ideas in exchange for an adequate but steady paycheck. Schools and corporations championed the idea of fitting in over being unique. Homogenous people were needed as easily replaceable cogs in the factories where those homogenous products were made faster and cheaper.

> This worked well until a few years ago when we reached the peak of manufacturing efficiency. Chasing ever-cheaper means of product production no longer works. The premise behind “the deal” with workers collapsed.

> Now the economy must reinvent itself (and workers along with it). Going forward, successful people will be “linchpins” . . . those who stand out rather than fit in.

> No two people are the same, just as no two snowflakes are the same. Each of us has things we do extremely well. These things are our “art”.

> The best thing we can do with our art is to give it away. When we give gifts without expectation of reciprocity it creates human connection and relationships.

(Pretty deep stuff, huh? I told you it takes time to process!)

> Linchpins are people who not only excel at their unique art (maximize their unique strengths), but create connection between people. They initiate ideas, work hard and make themselves indispensable to their organizations or the independent businesses they own.

> There is a primitive part of our head that Godin calls The Lizard Brain. It keeps us alive through our survival instincts, primarily through fear. By necessity, The Lizard Brain takes priority over the more refined parts of our minds.

> We must learn to disregard the fear messages sent by our Lizard Brain in order to hear our artistic mind. This is what makes us valuable in our post-Industrial Revolution economy.

In short, Linchpin encourages us to stand out, not fit in. We are to use our strengths to be unique (because that which is unique is not easily replaced, even in tough economic times).

The next time you’re looking to challenge yourself as a leader and spend some time in thought, I highly encourage you to read Linchpin by Seth Godin. It’s a great experience and well worth the effort.

QUOTES FROM SETH GODIN’S LINCHPIN

Linchpin by Seth GodinIf you’re not indispensable (yet) it’s because you haven’t made that choice.

Revolutions are frightening because the new benefits sometimes lag behind the old pain.

The hard work isn’t lifting or shoving or sharpening. The hard work is being brave enough to make a difference.

The culture of gifts has a long history on this planet, and understanding how it brings people together is a critical step in becoming indispensable.

Indispensable Linchpins are not waiting for instructions, but instead, figuring out what to do next. If you have a job where someone tells you what to do next, you’ve just given up the chance to create value.

Your personality and attitude are more important than the actual work product you create, because indispensable work is work that is connected to others.

A genius looks at something that others are stuck on and gets the world unstuck.

All of us are geniuses sometimes. The tragedy is that our society keeps drumming the genius part out.

We trade our genius and artistry for apparent stability.

Stop asking what’s in it for you and start giving gifts that change people.

The educated, hard-working masses are still doing what they’re told, but they’re no longer getting what they deserve.

If you’re not doing as well as you hoped, perhaps it’s because the rules of the game were changed, and no one told you.

You weren’t born to be a cog in the giant industrial machine. You were trained to become a cog.

You are not one of the myriad of interchangeable pieces, but a unique human being, and if you’ve got something to say, say it, and think well of yourself while you’re learning to say it better. – David Marmet

We are surrounded by bureaucrats, note takers, literalists, manual readers, TGIF laborers, map followers, and fearful employees.

There is no longer a clear path to satisfaction in working for the man.

The type of low-risk, high stability jobs that three-quarters of us crave have turned into dead-end traps of dissatisfaction and unfair risk.

The cause of workplace suffering is the desire of organizations to turn employees into replaceable cogs in a vast machine.

The indispensable employee brings humanity and connection and art to her organization.

Like scared civilians eager do whatever a despot tells of them, we give up our freedoms and responsibilities in exchange for the certainty that comes from being told what to do.

People want to be told what to do because they are afraid of figuring it out for themselves.

If you make your business possible to replicate, you’re not going to be the one to replicate it. Others will.

The people you’re hoping will hire you, buy from you, support you, and interact with you have more choices and less time than ever before.

You can always succeed for awhile with the cheapest, but you earn your place in the market with humanity and leadership.

There are no longer any great jobs where someone else tells you precisely what to do.

Any project, if broken down into sufficiently small, predictable parts, can be accomplished for awfully close to free.

Mediocre is merely a failed attempt to be really good.

Corporations have no right to our attention.

The only way to get what you’re worth is to stand out, to exert emotional labor, to be seen as indispensable, and to produce interactions that organizations and people care deeply about.

Most schools don’t like great teachers. They’re organized to stamp them out, bore them, bureaucratize them, and make them average.

Why are you working so hard to bury your natural-born instincts?

I’ve never met someone who had no art in them, though it’s buried sometimes.

We need you to stand up and be remarkable. Be human. Contribute. Interact.

Take the risk that you might make someone upset with your initiative, innovation, and insight – it turns out that you’ll probably delight them instead.

Consumers say that all they want are cheap commodities. Given the choice, though, most of us, most of the time, seek out art.

If you want a job where it’s okay to follow the rules, don’t be surprised if you get a job where following the rules is all you get to do.

If you want a job where the people who work for you do exactly what they’re told, don’t be surprised if your boss expects precisely the same thing from you.

If you want a job where you get to do more than follow instructions, don’t be surprised if you get asked to do things they never taught you in school.

If you want a job where you take intellectual risks all day long, don’t be surprised if your insights get you promoted.

Your outlook is completely due to your worldview.

Of course you can do something that matters. I’m wondering if you want to.

If you can be human at work, not a machine, you’ll discover a passion for work you didn’t know you had.

We’ve been trained to believe that mediocre obedience is a genetic fact for most of the population, but it’s interesting to note that this trait doesn’t show up until after a few years of schooling.

‘Keeping up with the Joneses’ is not a genetic predisposition. It’s an invented need.

Very few of us set out to be average or to be typical.

The essential thing measured by school is whether or not you’re good at school.

Many successful people got that way despite schooling, not because of it.

Solve interesting problems.

Leading is a skill, not a gift. You’re not born with it, you learn how. And schools can teach leadership as easily as they figured out how to teach compliance.

Calming your boss’ anxiety is the first step in getting the organization to embrace the change you will be making.

It doesn’t matter if you are always right. It matters that you’re always moving.

A brilliant author or businesswoman or senator or software engineer is brilliant only in teeny bursts. The rest of the time, they’re doing work that most any trained person could do.

It is the art and the insight and the bravery of value creation that are rewarded.

Expertise gives you enough insight to reinvent what everybody else assumes is the truth.

You can spend your time on stage pleasing the heckler in the back, or you can be devoted to the audience that came to hear you perform.

Organizations that can bring humanity and flexibility to their interaction with other human beings will thrive.

We spend time and energy trying to perfect our craft, but we don’t focus on the skills and interactions that will allow us to stand out and become indispensable to our organization.

The Linchpin feels the fear, acknowledges it, then proceeds.

Innovative solutions to new problems don’t get old.

Art is never defect-free.

They understand that there is no map, no step-by-step plan, and no way to avoid blame now and then.

Things that are remarkable never make spec, because that would make them standardized, not worth talking about.

If it wasn’t a mystery, it would be easy. If it were easy, it wouldn’t be worth much.

Good art is useless and banal. No one crosses the street to buy good art, or becomes loyal to a good artist. (Do great art.)

We’ve been teaching, cajoling, and yes, forcing people to hide their empathy and their creativity and pretend that they are fast-moving automatons, machines designed to do the company’s bidding.

As our economy has matured and mechanized, seeking out and adhering to the norm has become unprofitable.

Projects are the new resumes.

You are not your resume. You are your work.

If the game is designed for you to lose, don’t play that game. Play a different one.

If you need to conceal your true nature to get in the door, understand that you’ll probably have to conceal your true nature to keep that job.

You can work for a company that wants indispensable people, or you can work for a company that works to avoid them.

Work is nothing but a platform for art and the emotional labor that goes with it.

The gift is to the giver, and comes back to him. – Walt Whitman

Most artists can’t draw. – Roy Simmons

Great art resonates with the viewer, not only with the creator.

An artist is someone who uses bravery, insight, creativity, and boldness to challenge the status quo.

Art is a personal gift that changes the recipient. The medium doesn’t matter. The intent does.

Art is a personal act of courage, something one human does that creates change in another.

Art is a personal gift that changes the recipient.

Art is the product of emotional labor. If it’s easy and risk-free, it’s unlikely that it’s art.

There’s always a gift intent on the part of the artist.

Art is unique, new, and challenging to the status quo. It is not decoration; it’s something that causes change.

The moment you are willing to sell your time for money is the moment you cease to be the artist you’re capable of being.

When you give something away, you benefit more than the recipient does.

When it is time for layoffs, the safest job belongs to the artist, the Linchpin, the one who can’t easily be outsourced or replaced.

Certain sorts of art make us cry without embarrassment.

If you don’t pinpoint your audience, you end up making your art for the loudest, crankiest critics.

The easier it is to quantify, the less it’s worth.

Passion is caring enough about your art that you will do almost anything to give it away, to make it a gift, to change people.

When an artist stops work before his art is received, his work is unfulfilled.

Everyone, every single person, has been a genius at least once. If you can do it once, you can do it again.

The economy is ruthlessly punishing the fearful, and increasing the benefits to the few who are brave enough to create art and generous enough to give it away.

Creativity is an instinct to produce. – Bruce Ario.

Artists think along the edges of the box, because that’s where things get done.

I’ve produced more than 100 books, but if I hadn’t, I never have the chance to write this one.

The only purpose of starting is just to finish, and while the projects we do are never really finished, they must ship.

Any project worth doing involves invention, inspiration, and at least a little bit of making stuff up.

Being productive at someone else’s task list is not the same as making your own map.

Successful people are successful for one simple reason: they think about failure differently.

You become a winner because you’re good at losing.

Discomfort brings engagement and change. Discomfort means you’re doing something that others were unlikely to do, because they’re busy hiding out in the comfortable zone.

The people who break through usually have nothing to lose and they almost never have a backup plan.

One way to become creative is to discipline yourself to generate bad ideas. The worse the better. Do it a lot and magically you’ll discover that some good ones slip through.

You’re as capable as the next guy of insight, invention, or connection that makes a difference.

The temptation to sabotage the new thing is huge, precisely because the new thing might work.

Becoming more average, more quick, and more cheap is not as productive as it used to be.

Fear of living without a map is the main reason people are so insistent that we tell them what to do.

The smell of fear is the best indicator we have not to trust the other side.

Don’t listen to the cynics.  They’re cynics for a reason.

Late is the first step to never.

Pretending you know what you’re doing is almost the same as knowing what you’re doing, so except that you know what you’re doing even if you don’t and do it.

The point of being done is not to finish but to get other things done.

Failure counts as done. So do mistakes.

Done is the engine of more.

Trivial art isn’t worth the trouble it takes to produce it.

The difference between a successful artist and a failed one happens after the idea is hatched. The difference is the race to completion. Did you finish?

Anxiety is needless and imaginary. It’s fear about fear, fear that means nothing.

Anxiety doesn’t protect you from danger, but from doing great things.

No rewards for worriers.

The very thing you are afraid of occurs, precisely because you’re afraid of it.

A gift always creates a surplus as it spreads.

The astonishing fact is that most successful people in the world are those who don’t do it for the money.

The most successful givers aren’t doing it because they’re being told to. They do it because doing it is fun. It gives them joy.

Great bosses hire motivated people, set high expectations, and give their people room to be remarkable.

Respect is the gift you can offer in return.

Abandoning your worldview in order to try on someone else’s is the first step in being able to see things as they are.

The ability to see the world as it is begins with an understanding that perhaps it’s not your job to change what can’t be changed.

When our responses turn into reactions and we set out to teach people a lesson, we lose.

If you deliberately try to create a future that feels safe, you will willfully ignore the future that is likely.

Opportunities come after inspiration. We are not inspired by opportunities.

If your agenda is set by someone else and it doesn’t lead you where you want to go, why is it your agenda?

You can either fit in or stand out. Not both.

Being slightly remarkable is a losing strategy. Stand out.

How we respond to the opportunities and challenges of the outside world now determines how much the outside world values us.

Real change rarely comes from the front of the line.

Conventional wisdom is that you should find a job that matches your passion. I think this is backwards.

Transferring your passion to your job is far easier than finding a job that happens to match your passion.

When your people do what they do because they love it, it works. Even if they’re not as technically adept as the competition.

If you can do it brilliantly once, just once, then of course you can do it again.

If you burn out along the way, you’re not doing anyone a favor.

Dignity is more important than wealth.

After people have “enough” what they crave is dignity.

The individual who collects, connects, and nurtures relationships is indispensable.

Leadership starts with the gift you give, not with the manipulation you attempt.

Understanding that your job is to make something happen changes what you do all day.

Mentoring is rarely about the facts, but instead is a transfer of emotion and confidence.

Be bolder and think bigger. Nothing is stopping you.

Humility is our antidote to what is inevitably not going to go according to plan.

Humility permits us to approach a problem with kindness and not arrogance.

Trying and failing is better than merely failing, because trying makes you an artist and gives you the right to try again.

If you work for an organization that insists you be mediocre, that enforces conformity in all its employees, why stay?

You don’t start with the confidence of the company; you earn it.

You’re gifted, but you might not be gifted at what you’re doing right now.

Everybody has their own private Mount Everest they were put on this earth to climb.

The best way to get approval is not to need it.

Don’t try to stand out from the crowd; avoid crowds altogether.

Savor obscurity while it lasts.

You are responsible for your own experience.

Power is never given. Power is taken.

Beware of turning hobbies into jobs.

Merit can be bought. Passion can’t.

When your dreams become reality, they are no longer your dreams.

Dying young is overrated.

Don’t worry about finding inspiration. It comes eventually.

If your business plan depends on you suddenly being discovered by some big shot, your plan will probably fail.

Everyone is born creative; everyone is given a box of crayons in kindergarten.

Companies that squelch creativity can no longer compete with companies that champion creativity.

The hardest part of being creative is getting used to it.

Selling out is harder than it looks.

Avoid the watercooler gang.

Put the hours in.

The more talented somebody is, the less they need the props.

So, what’s smart? Living life without regret.

The certain thing is that you can change everything. If you choose to.

We can’t profitably get more average.

We’ve gone against our true nature and corporatized, anonymized, and dehumanized as many of our systems as we possibly can.

Which of Seth Godin’s ideas from Linchpin resonate with you? Leave a comment below.


 

Top Quotes From Catalyst East 2013

The Catalyst East leadership conference was 10/2-10/4 in Atlanta. Here are some of the top quotes from the #Catalyst Twitter feed:

CATALYST NOTES DAY 2 – FRIDAY

@aaronmora07: Ready for day two at #Catalyst! Yesterday was pretty incredible. Ready for God to speak today. #needcoffee

@TeachingSteph: “Inheritance is what you leave someone. Legacy is what you leave in someone.” – @reggiejoiner

@balderdan: Put a suitcase in the nursery. Let it remind you they’ll be gone before you know it, & take with them what you help them pack.

@hailleywhite: “The greatest gift you can give someone is time. Until a person is known, they won’t know what it is to be loved.” @reggiejoiner

@CatalystLeader: “Churches that don’t have fun have a spiritual issue.” – @reggiejoiner

@umcpastorj: The best gift you can give someone is your time. Choose who you give to very carefully. – @reggiejoiner

@carlnichols: “Until someone is known it is impossible for them to feel loved.” @reggiejoiner

@ToddLowans: ‘Fame lived for applause, legacy lives to give applause.’ – Reggie Joiner

@timberlakeranch: “As soon as a daughter is born, you start learning how to let go.” @reggiejoiner

@CatalystLeader: “Leaving a legacy has less to do with being magnificent and has more to do with being ordinary.” @ReggieJoiner

@jesseland324: When u see how much time u have left, u tend to get serious about the time u have now. #catalyst

@cwinton81: “Legacy has more to do with lifting a child up than making a name for yourself.” @reggiejoiner

@DivaDThatsMe: Jesus didn’t say “change your neighbor as yourself”…. – Reggie Joiner #catalyst #Icantchangepeople #buticanloveafew

@lindyjroberts: I cannot change anyone, but I can love a few. – @reggiejoiner

@CatalystLeader: “You will only be remembered by the people who know you now.” – @ReggieJoiner

@CatalystLeader: “Legacy is about doing things consistently over time for the people who are around you.” – @ReggieJoiner

@jdcastellente: “Make what matters, matter more.” -@reggiejoiner

@JakeRainwater: Time is a platform of Gods love. Time➗Love=Worth

@GoAMPStudents: “Focus on the things that you can do and accomplish” @reggiejoiner

@GoAMPStudents: Would you rather be reliable or remarkable? What makes a bigger difference to others? @ReggieJoiner

@joshuaklane: “The best way to know someone is to love them” – Reggie Joiner

@jdcastellente: “Love over time, gives people worth.” -@reggiejoiner

RT @CatalystLeader: “The greatest gift you can give someone is your time.” – @ReggieJoiner #Catalyst

RT @CatalystLeader: “The moment you have is now with the people you are with now.” – @reggiejoiner #Catalyst

@BrianKDodd: 26 Leadership Quotes and Lessons from @ReggieJoiner from #Catalyst ’13 http://t.co/vJGQNPUzps. @TheRocketCo is live blogging from the event

@CatalystLeader: “God miraculously positioned you in this generation for a purpose.” – @PriscillaShirer

@CatalystLeader: “Everything you need God already is.” – @PriscillaShirer

@jdcastellente: “We complain when God places us where we don’t want to be not knowing it’s there he gives us what we’re needing” @PriscillaShirer

@RonEdmondson: “If you want to change the world you have to be crazy enough to believe you can.”

@CatalystLeader: “Since the beginning of time, there has been a war for your soul.” – @PriscillaShirer

@CatalystLeader: “Everything you need God already is.” – @PriscillaShirer

@spulliam: Adoptive mom @SenLandrieu, Democratic senator, is making a big push for adoption here at #Catalyst. “Parents raise children.”

@CatalystHipster: @DaveRamsey is on at #catalyst. Everyone just hid their iPhone 5S. #Stewardship

@ShaneBengry: Skipping out on @DaveRamsey at #Catalyst to enjoy his free coffee at the pastors lounge #GoodStewardship

@Mrcreft: You will die sooner than you think… #Catalyst

@WhitneyHughes4: I have now seen not one, but TWO guys wearing my button up denim shirt within the past day. #catalyst #toomanywannabehipsters

@CatalystLeader: “I don’t own anything. I’m only managing the resources that God has blessed me with.” @DaveRamsey @RachelCruze #Catalyst

@dphilli4: Ticket to #Braves game tonight – $46 Ticket to #Catalyst – $179
Ride from Gwinnett Center to Turner Field – PRICELESS. Help!! #notacreeper

@CatalystLeader: “The battle rages but the war is won!” – @JOHNNYSWIM #Catalyst

@BrettEDurham: We’ve got to Love these peeps working concessions at #Catalyst. Cool people who need to see the love of Jesus!

@CatalystLeader: You don’t own anything. God owns it all. @DaveRamsey #catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “When it comes to raising kids, more is caught then taught.” @daveramsey @RachelCruze #catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “Who you are speaks so loudly I can’t hear what you say.” – @CoryBooker #Catalyst

@IJM: Talent is important but values are more important. @CoryBooker #Catalyst

@IJM: Fear is the opposite of love. It’s what makes us small. Love makes us large. -@CoryBooker #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “Purpose is more important than position.” – @CoryBooker #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “You can’t have great discoveries without getting lost.” – @CoryBooker #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “The world you see outside of you is a reflection of the world inside of you. How do you see the world?” – @CoryBooker #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “Your emotions are choices. You have the power to choose your response.” – @CoryBooker #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “Authenticity is one of the great challenges of life. Stay true to yourself and your calling.” – @CoryBooker #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “We weren’t born to fit in, we were born to stand out.” – @CoryBooker #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “Being loyal to your purpose is more important than your position.” – @CoryBooker #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “If you’re passionate and stay true to your purpose, you’ll end up in places you could have never imagined.” – @CoryBooker #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “Expressing gratitude is one of the most healing things you can do.” – @CoryBooker #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “I don’t own anything. I’m only managing the resources that God has blessed me with.” @DaveRamsey @RachelCruze #Catalyst

@spulliam: Newark mayor Cory Booker, Dem Senate candidate, at #catalyst: “We’re all created in the image of God. There’s no one we can’t learn from.”

@ChristinaGard: “Love the calling you have and not the one you wish you had.” @judwilhite #catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “If you love God, you have to love what God loves. And God loves His Church.” – @JudWilhite #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “If you don’t love the Church, you forfeit the right to critique it and make it better.” – @JudWilhite #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “Everybody loves you ’til you lead.” – @JudWilhite #Catalyst

@JBDewell: “Social media is a billboard, not a diary.” @JudWilhite #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: “Stop comparing your church to others.” – @JudWilhite #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: We can’t make people fall in love with Jesus, but we can set up dates. @AndyStanley #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: If you could only do what only you could do, what would that be? @AndyStanley #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: Most decisions are pre-decided when the mission is crystal clear. @AndyStanley #Catalyst

@CatalystLeader: Always have an answer to these 3 questions: What are we doing? Why are we doing it? Where do I fit in? via @AndyStanley #Catalyst

@MoniqueSummers: “Look here, God is going to take @DuckDynastyAE where He wants it, and to whoever He wants to take it to.” – Uncle Si #Catalyst

@Xelaju4: The creator gave me orders to kill it and grill it. #Catalyst #DuckDynasty

@bivopastor: This group just offered 2 free downloads to pastors. free offering talks. http://t.co/YZ0f3up73X

@CatalystLeader: The string artist who was in the #known video and created all the beautiful art for this year is @aaronleeharris, check out his work!

@Wildcat456: So, none of my tweets made it on the #bigscreen, I didn’t find a cool Christian hipster husband but the church stuff was awesome. #Catalyst

@MsGustama: I said it before and I’ll say it again … #catalyst is by far the BEST conference I’ve ever attended. I am a @CatalystLeader

@timrpeters: Download a free eBook with notes and quotes from #Catalyst http://t.co/U88FdBs5OD

@CatalystLeader: Do not leave without your #Catalyst Atlanta 2013 Experience Kit. If you aren’t attending, buy yours online! http://t.co/Gvx40fQxhL #fb

@CatalystLeader: That’s a wrap folks! May you be wrecked by the love of Jesus. via @jeannestevens #Catalyst

CATALYST QUOTES DAY ONE – THURSDAY

@CatalystLeader: “Our prayer for these next few days isn’t that you would be in the know, but that you would be #known.” – @PastorChrisSeay

@CatalystLeader: “Too often we focus on what it means to know, but we want to focus on what it means to be known.” @PastorChrisSeay

@CatalystLeader: “Our greatest opportunity in life is to be known and be fully loved.” @PastorChrisSeay

@CatalystLeader: “All of us have an appetite to be known.” – @AndyStanley

@CatalystLeader: “There is no amount of known that will statisfy your appetite to be known.” – @AndyStanley

@CatalystLeader: “To lead you must be known.” @AndyStanley

@CatalystLeader: “There is no amount of applause that will ever be satisfying.” – @AndyStanley

@CatalystLeader: “Those most applauded for feel most entitled to.” – @AndyStanley

@CatalystLeader: “Applause is addictive. Once we get it we start looking for it and we start manufacturing it.” – @AndyStanley

@CatalystLeader: “What’s applauaded as exceptional the first time will be expected the next time.” – @AndyStanley

RT @CatalystLeader: “I am known to make Him known.” – @AndyStanley

@CatalystLeader: “What you’ve got is a gift from the One who knows you best.” – @AndyStanley

@zachsteiger: There’s a little lady gaga in all of us. @AndyStanley

@mattperman: My notes from Andy Stanley’s message “Surviving Your Appetite for Being Known.” http://t.co/XiZT3oX3wI

@J_rod4theglory: Oh the irony of tweets about making Him known instead of ourselves in order to make the big screen at #Catalyst

@ToddAdkinsHair: I come to #Catalyst to check out the hair trends. #futurehairstyles

@mandisaofficial: There’s no place I’d rather be than worshipping w/ 13,000 of my brothers & sisters in Christ! #Catalyst http://t.co/o64g7MJwzp

@joshuaklane: “Giants are not always what they seem” – Malcolm Gladwell

@CDavidDaniels: Our obstacles and our weaknesses are our opportunities of greatest learning.” @Gladwell

@AnnVoskamp: Giving thanks is how to sharpen the dull edge of your life in the midst of the battle.

@stressedmoms: Wow. RT @justinlathrop: What if we stopped holding people accountable & started holding people closely. @bobgoff

@evangelistmatt: We cannot allow our ability to produce to define us.

@_tonytorres: Watched a crazy movie preview of Noah. Coming March 2014. Wow, well done!

@desiringgod: Piper: “Any theology that isn’t humble simply cannot be true.”

@BWeden: “Saul’s armor didn’t work for David. Be creative and innovative when you lead, the same things won’t always work.” @Gladwell

@billpavelich: Not ” ready-set-go”…it’s “Go Set Ready’!! – Mark Batterson #catalyst what r u waiting for???

@tyhagan: No where are @trippandtyler’s comments about the 50+ crowd wearing cell phones on their belts more truer than in the Pastors tent!

@ToddLowans: “Suffering ceases to be suffering when you have a redemptive perspective.” -@donaldmiller

@bradlomenick: Identity is unchanging. Being comes before doing. WHO you are determines WHAT you do. #Catalyst week

@Luther_Rice: My notes from @Gladwell msg at #Catalyst in ATL https://t.co/94mJAWAjP7

@Luther_Rice: My notes from @andystanley msg at #Catalyst in ATL https://t.co/oEgC2R1iSJ

@JuliePMac: What has God taught me today at #Catalyst? Don’t let what you DON’T have keep you from taking hold of what God has released to BE YOURS!!!

@AlexMurashko: More Than 13,000 Church Leaders Gather in Atlanta for Catalyst Conference http://t.co/ET5MvcUAVV

@twomblesaurusrx: if the dream of the 90’s is alive in Portland, than the dream of the 80’s is truly alive in Atlanta.

@David_C_Cook: “We aren’t going to win the battles of this world until we know our position in Christ.” -@AnnVoskamp

@chloehamlin: We always see Goliath as greater than he actually was. David was never the underdog. @Gladwell

@Giana_Hall: @CatalystLeader amazing to see what God is up to apart from us silly, pretentious plaid-clad Christians. He’s bigger than we hope.

@timayates: That Andy Stanly will have a bright future.

@CatalystLeader: “The only way to truth and freedom is through vulnerability. – @JasonRussell // truth!!

@CatalystLeader: “We are all global citizens in this world and we need to take better care of one another.” – @JasonRussell

@followsomebody: The work will always be louder than your family. You must set boundaries and stick to them no matter how loud the noise gets.

@CatalystLeader: “We are supposed to redeem culture, not run from it.” – @lecrae

@bwitt722: You know you’re at #CATALYST when you’re standing in line for a food truck and 2 people are reading their Bibles.

@CatalystLeader: “Are we perpetuating religion or a relationship?” – @lecrae

@mandisaofficial: “When we are most satisfied in Christ, He is most glorified in us.”-@JohnPiper

@kalimillerr: All the millennials at #catalyst are currently sitting by outlets, attached to their social media. #wearewhoweare #GenY

@keithgiles: Jesus never called us to lead. He called us to follow and to teach others to follow.

@CalebMason: Part of knowing who you are is knowing who you aren’t.

@erinmuhree: Use every reason you can to celebrate. – @angelaahrendts

@AngelaAhrendts “If you loved to be loved, why wouldn’t your people appreciate the same?” 

@CatalystLeader: “Christianity isn’t just religious truth, it’s TOTAL truth.” – @lecrae

@CatalystLeader: “I hope the culture we’ve created will be our greatest legacy and long outlive us.”- @AngelaAhrendts, CEO of @Burberry

@CatalystLeader: “A great leader’s job is to be honest and tell people where you are going.”- @AngelaAhrendts, CEO of @Burberry

@CatalystLeader: “The best news in the whole world is that our greatest possible joy and God’s glory are one thing.” – @JohnPiper

@mattperman: My notes on Malcolm Gladwell’s excellent #catalyst message on David and Goliath, and why you are not an underdog: http://t.co/hTdI943dOl

@CatalystLeader: “Our human nature was designed to reveal God’s nature.” – @JohnPiper

@CatalystLeader: “Unlikely people come to know God in unlikely ways.” – @JudahSmith

@CatalystLeader: We’re sons and daughters by birth, not by worth.” – @JudahSmith

@mattperman: My notes on Malcolm Gladwell’s excellent #catalyst message on David and Goliath, and why you are not an underdog: http://t.co/hTdI943dOl

@JustinWise: My notes from #Catalyst: Session Three with John Piper – http://t.co/bNG5iXWUxb

@BrianKDodd: Click http://t.co/X6UuOKV7KM for 21 Leadership Quotes And Lessons From Andy Stanley Opening Session At #Catalyst 2013

CATALYST NOTES FROM LAB DAY – WEDNESDAY

@CatalystLeader: A special edition of the #Catalyst Podcast featuring need-to-knows, event information, and fun road-trip games. http://t.co/gbhbXGMhaU

@BillintheBlank: Check out http://t.co/htAZ6hUb34 for extras and special live broadcasts from #Catalyst

@wvanderbloemen: There are WAY more bow ties, vests, and cuffed jeans in the ATL airport than normal. #Catalyst must be coming…

@KPowellFYI: “If u want to keep your church growing and relevant, invest in children and teenagers.” @reggiejoiner

@jburno: Things are constantly changing, so we should have an entrepreneurial mindset no matter where we work. – @alli

@HaleyVeturis: “I love Twitter because it allows me to build trust with people on a whole new level–I can be human here.” via @alli

@jimmirocketship: Couldn’t make it to #Catalyst like me? Then follow @JosephLalonde! He’s live blogging the event!

@KyleJMusser: Only way to find out what you are good at is to get into the game @DrHenryCloud

@KyleJMusser: If everything is important, then nothing is important. – Dr. Henry Cloud

@revjenwilliams: Church leadership conferences – never a line at the women’s restroom. Good for me, sad for the church.

@davidmac1024: the worst thing we can do is die with potential

@Jobbinv: There’s a big difference between being invited and being welcomed. – @bobgoff

@AnnVoskamp: Gratitude is the Christian faith’s most powerful forgotten weapon.

@markhcox: “It is nearly impossible to offend a humble person; humble people don’t hold onto rights.” – @bcloritts

@mattperman: Jim Collins: “People are not risk averse, they’re ambiguity averse.” Brilliant. Just brilliant.

@donbrawley: Leader, you are the keeper of your culture~Brian Loritts

@donbrawley: Leader, you are the keeper of your culture~Brian Loritts

@AnnVoskamp: The unconventional way to win your battles — is to give thanks in your battles.

@SydniChambers: Give yourself permission to fail but fail TRYING. Don’t fail watching. – #Catalyst

@justinlathrop: 5 Things You Should Know About Networking At a Conference like #catalyst [blog post] ›› http://t.co/v9YzOBd1We”

@benjimast: “Fail. But fail at the right things.” – Bob Goff

@bobwhittet: “You are ultimately responsible to who Called you, not who hired you” – @MarkBatterson

@RonEdmondson: “Keep your character several steps ahead of your talent” – @JeffHenderson

@RonEdmondson: “At what point did we begin to think excellence is offensive to God?” – @JeffHenderson

@BillintheBlank: My recap of the dangers of doing good with @peterkgreer @bethanyhoang and @2FP at #Catalyst Labs http://t.co/wH8CIlbIgv

@DawnSeverdia: We want God to go first because that doesn’t require any faith. @MarkBatterson

@chrisdotarnold: Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a #known God.

@lizzydriscoll: Pride is stealing what rightfully belongs to God and ascribing it to me. @bcloritts

@DawnSeverdia: You don’t need more time, you need to say “no” more often. @alli

@DawnSeverdia: See the need. Be the remedy. @blakecanterbury

@_JakeBrown: “What if we stop calling it ministry and just call it Tuesday?” – Bob Goff

@Breiland959: Bob Goff – Are we bouncers that determine who gets to Jesus OR ushers that lead people to Jesus?/ That one hit home”

@aucye: “All idols eventually demand the sacrifice of our children.” – @ahc

@BeSunnyBass: “For what we do is always determined by who we are. Lead from who you are.”

@josh_phillips: A phrase from today that I can’t get out of my head: Your church will only be as consecrated as you are. Holy Spirit left hook.

@RonEdmondson: “If we are not careful we can spiritualize laziness” – @JeffHenderson

@erinmuhree: tell people what you see in them. – @bobgoff

@KendallLeetweet: You don’t have to blow out someone else’s candle to make yours shine brighter.

@pjohnst2: The problem is non-profits think like non-profits @JeffHenderson

@sturnerlee: “When opportunity comes, it is too late to prepare.” – John Wooden, former UCLA Coach; quoted at #catalyst

@DianaWeiFang: “Don’t confuse success with comfort” @prophiphop

@Pal_Rune: Dr Henry Cloud-path to identity:1) attend to what is relevant 2)positive emotional climate 3)connect 4)control yourself 5)believe

@ChadAlanGraves: The enemy only has two battle plans. To blind you from who God is and blind to who you are in Him. @annvoskamp

@ThatCarolJones: Offer value. Not service or resources or products. Offer value. @LysaTerKeurst

@DawnSeverdia: When we make it about us, it never takes off. @peterkgreer

@RelationalEQ: “You have to be committed to being an expert in that which you are passionate about.” – @EugeneCho

@onechurchstl: God doesn’t see failing as a fault; he sees it as identity formation.

@mccall_d: One of my favorite quotes of the day, “Google is my MBA!” Loved meeting you at #Catalyst today @alli.

@BenLangevin: http://t.co/EmJMmyZaN3 just posted a blog about my experience so far at #catalyst. It’s been so great so far!

@BrianKDodd: The Top 30 Leadership Quotes From The #Catalyst Labs http://t.co/iJUVkNKOFk